i cant keep the feeling away,how do i get rid of it? i want1 so bad,but i know i shouldnt..what do i do?
im 14
2007-12-25 12:35:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well, I was going to volunteer for the job, but age makes a difference, lmao. You should get your education first babe, secure your self for the future first then when you are well established including being financially secured then maybe if everything is right have one. Please don't destroy your future by having a baby at a young age and remember, "Education" is the key to the future.
2007-12-26 04:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That feeling has never went away for me. I still have it 7 feel it all the time but I know I can't take for a baby at my age (17) as well as if I were in my 20s. So I'm going to wait until I"m 25 & adopt children. To make this happen I have to have a good job etc. I can't wait to be a mom but know that now is not the time. I spent some time with my little cousins & LOVED it. I love them soooooooo much. I even love how babies smell- so clean & fresh. I played with them, 4 yo, 2yo,2yo,3 yo, and 7 months & took tons of pics. I love holding them, playing with them etc & cherish every moment. Children are my goal & I will get them when the time is right. To have them now would actually be selfish. Think about it. You are young & couldn't care for your child as well as if you were in your 20s or so so just wait & be the best mom you can be. Embrace the feeling, maybe being a mother is your destiny. BUt not this young & ill equipped. WAIT. I'm waiting & know its the best decision for me and my kids. As soon as I turn 25 I'm starting the adoption process. Thats the youngest you can be to adopt form Africa. I'm sooooooo excited but thats 8 years off.
2007-12-25 23:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by Carly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put your self to the test;Go out one day and have all the fun you can.Come back home and think about are you willing to give up all that fun.No fair,no friends over hardly,no movies ,no nothing really .Either nothing or youll find a great babysitter.Not for cheap though,especially when the babys an infant at least $170 a week or higher at the day care.Im 17 witha 4 month old trust me babe your not ready cause i sure wasnt.If it happens just let god bless you dont try to bless your self
2007-12-26 00:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by Love peace and chicken grease 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's actually very natural and normal for a girl your age to want a baby. Decades ago, your age was the normal time to start a family as people didn't live as long. It's just your hormones - it's good you know that you shouldn't, though! You should think about how having a baby would impact your future, and about how you'll be a great mom when the time is right.
2007-12-25 20:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey you know I suggest if you really want one, at least wait until you're done with high school and graduate and stuff. If you really want one, its your business but I would make sure you know what you're doing because once you have a baby, you can't just get rid of them if it gets hard. And I wouldn't wanna see you get pregnant and change your mind all the sudden again and go out and get an abortion. For now, maybe you can get some babysitting jobs or work at a daycare center after school and take care of the babies. Trust me, if you wait until you're at least finished with school because getting your diploma is too important. Not that you couldn't still graduate if you had a baby but it would make things harder.
2007-12-25 20:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Kay1134♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey, i know what you are going through. I am 14 as well and wanted to have a child, and guess what I did. It is hard for me now being a mother and goign to school, with little social time you r life starts to become crazy. I am not saying don't have sex because I did and I would never change it for the world. My boyfriend is there for me and all, but before you go out and do something that will change your life for ever think about it. Go to a teen pregnancy place, or planned parenthood. They tell you all of the info that you need to know. If you ever want to talk email me or go under your SN because I will then be able to talk to you. I understand what you are going through, but do what is right for you. It is probably you hormones talking but I listened to them once and I am happy I did, but now you have to choose what you want to do with your life. Listen to your heart and what is the best decision that you can make. I made mine but I can't make yours. Email me anythime at MylaRose101@yahoo.com, or tell me when you are going online so I can talk to you then. Please I would love to help you in anyway I can. You can ask me anything about being a pregnant teen, to how labor was, to how peopel saw me. Please it is good to talk and let what you are feeling out and I want to help.
2007-12-25 20:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by Myla D 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
concentrate on other things.. like your future for example... maybe you could consider an education before a child. sure, you might get married, have a child. which happens every day...
just in case you find yourself having to care for you and the child alone, it might be wise to have a career or a degree first.
it's tough out there... and wondering where the next dime is going to come from is stressful
do 14 year old things, hon.
2007-12-25 20:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Other peoples children are nice but remember it is different when it is your own child. If you have a child when he/she gets sick you have to take care of them. When your baby cries at night you have to get up and attend to their needs. It is not as easy as you think. Babies cost money they need to eat, they need clothes, they need diapers. You are way to young to have to put your life on hold to take care of a child. Plus who ever you are going to have that child with is he responsible? Is he going to be there to help you? If not you are going to have to do it on your own. You can't expect your parents to raise you child because it is not their responsibility it is yours. The best thing for you to do is wait before you end up making a decision that you regret.
2007-12-26 14:05:54 · answer #8 · answered by Slim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BABY SIT KIDS IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD MAYBE YOU JUST WANT TO CARE FOR SOMEONE.
REMEMBER A BABY ISN'T LIKE A PET THAT YOU CAN BUY AT A STORE AND GET RID OF WHEN THEY ARE TO MUCH TO HANDLE. THE NEED LOVE CARE ATTENTION AND ARE VERY COSTLY.
2007-12-26 01:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about all the stress of keeping another living being alive
especially in school and being so young
how much giving birth and carrying a baby will hurt your body
are you sure you don't just want somebody to love you?
you friedns and family love you!
talk to a councelor about it!
2007-12-25 21:23:56 · answer #10 · answered by Kenna Coconut™ Actorasauress Rex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋