Do you think a man that is getting sex regularly will still be likely to cheat? Cause most people always say it's cause their not getting it at home.
2007-12-25 12:27:43 · 31 answers · asked by Felicia *Proud Mommy Of 2* 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
nope......I think a man cheats b/c he is not happy in the marriage or b/c he is always looking for something better....and will take any willing offers....it has nothing to do with if you are putting out for him or not.
2007-12-25 12:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know men who could have sex 5-10 times a day and they would still cheat. A lot of men are just like dogs and are going to hump anything at any time; Have you ever taken a male dog for a walk in the park? I mean - please - how many times do they have to raise their leg and release their scent on whatever they choose? But I have to say all men are not like that - these are the ones with lots of training. So if you will be concerned with infidelity - get a man with extensive training .
I also know women who have the same problem as well so this is not just a male problem.
2007-12-25 12:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by PJ Solutions 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a Guy's point of view, this is not always the case, if he is getting love and affection and the feeling that his wife does her best and makes him feel wanted at home, and needed at home out side of sex, chances are he wont cheat. Men cheat for a few reasons and its not just sex,, however sex plays a major role but you ad the wife that neglects him, makes him dread to come home, doesnt appreciate him or show him affections, that is almost a guarntee he will cheat.
Now if he is getting sex alot but lackes the rest of it, he can still possibly cheat because he feels no love at home and it is just a sexual relationship and his marriage means nothing. That is why men/ women cheat, there marriage has become so stagnet at home that to them it is worth the risk to cheat because they want to feel needed and loved.
2007-12-25 12:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by john d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Using the excuse that "he isn't getting it at home" is a bunch of BS. Either the man is looking for "variety", cheats just because, OR (the more common affair) there are other issues in his marriage/home life that he isn't happy with, and he has a close relationship with a co-worker/friend/etc that understands him "better than his wife". This type of affair can either cause a divorce or cause the adulterer to realise s/he (wives have affairs too, you know) has to fix what's broken and not run away from it. In the case of the latter, most often they go on to have a stronger marriage - yes, they have a lot of things to work through and get past, but once they do, their marriage is better and stronger than ever.
As for once a cheater, always a cheater - BULLSH*T!!!
ANYONE CAN CHANGE - the key is they have to WANT to change for themselves. And NOT because others want them to or because it's expected of them.
I have a cousin married to an ex-drug addict. She left him because of his habit - cut him out of her life and the life of their child completely. Within a year, he began to clean up - he wanted his family back. She gave him a "trial period" - to prove himself - and once she fully believed him, they married and began their lives together as a family. In the past 18 years, he's never once gone back to drugs, nor has he turned to alcohol or any other vice ... he's a hard-working, devoted husband and dad. Because HE wanted to make the change, he did it, and never looked back because he knew what it would cost him.
Many people are the same way. They screw up once, and know they did wrong, and want to change and better themselves. Not giving them that chance and saying they can never do it is completely wrong and very unjust.
I was cheated on by my ex - continually - and no matter how many times he did it, I forgave him. Until finally I knew he would never change. So I left and never looked back.
My friend was in a relationship about the same time and her b/f fooled around. She walked away - thinking he was like my then b/f and would always cheat. She was wrong. He was heart-broken by his mistake and did everything he could to prove to her it would never happen again. She refused to listen. For 2 years he did everything he could to win her back - only to lose her completely when she married someone else. Sadly for her, her husband was a habitual cheater.
My friend had the same mentality most people seem to have - once a cheater, always a cheater - and it cost her a wonderful man who made a one time mistake. She judged him based on another man's mistakes - very unfair, very unjust, and it wound up hurting them both in the end.
This was a great question - thanks for asking.
2007-12-25 13:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the mans sexual appetite. A very sexual person man or woman will be more likely to cheat. I think sex is like an addiction and sometimes affairs put more "spark" in someones sexlife? Just what I gather from hearing about affairs and knowing people at work that have had them.
Once a cheater always a cheater for sure though!
2007-12-25 16:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is the definition of regularly for men and women!!! Men need more than you imagine!!! Once you get married or move in it ALWAYS slows down ALWAYS!!! So men will go out and get what they need!!! Check his cell phone records and his work cell phone. Check all his email addresses, including work not just the email he uses with you. Here are the facts of life:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
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2007-12-25 13:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
For all these women to be saying all men are pigs don't forget they are cheating with a woman so that doesn't make women look to clean! And yes most people men and women will cheat cause it's natural!
2007-12-25 12:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by yellow boy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They usually tell the mistress they aren't getting any at home, but believe me, they usually are getting plenty; the wife would become suspicious if all of a sudden he didn't want sex with her. That excuse is the oldest there is; they are cheating because they want both a wife and the excitement of a mistress.
2007-12-25 15:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey if you already have proof he is cheating ("So I think my bf is cheating doing the online thing I do have proof, but he hides his "cookies" temp files that can trace what you are doing online.. ") why would you want to continue torturing yourself looking for more evidence? Just kick him to the curb noone deserves to be cheated on. I know its easier said than done because I'm sure you love him, but love yourself more. No guy is ever worth your tears.
2016-05-26 05:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People cheat for a variety of reasons and its not just sexual. Most of the time its because they have a need that is not getting filled. Could be an emotional void.
2007-12-25 12:35:30 · answer #10 · answered by Ker Plunk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how much he's getting sex at home. Men still have affairs even with sex at home. Maybe not likely to cheat...but I say once a cheater always a liar and a cheater.
2007-12-25 12:30:57 · answer #11 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋