My kids are almost grown and they just opened their gifts and said thanks and got back on their computers. I feel so sad and I really would like to have another child but I am not sure if it is just from feeling lonely and sad about not having a child small enough to play with anymore or what. Anyway, I feel so lonely and sad today. I am married and love my husband, but it is like I am having empty nest syndrome early or something. Things aren't like they used to be and soon it will just be me and my hubby. What should I do?
2007-12-25 12:16:21 · 7 answers · asked by susan9 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
adopt! If you can do it then do it!! There are lots of kids out there that need a loving mom just like you! Or just realize that it is probably Christmas Blues! A lot of people get like that! Enjoy some time alone if you can or find a new activity that keeps you happy. Good Luck! God Bless! My time is coming too. Mine are getting older as well, but that is the way it goes. I would rather have them grow than not. The alternative isn't so nice.
2007-12-26 15:33:24 · answer #1 · answered by KELJO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go yell for the kids to come down and sit around the table and talk. Get out the photo albums or old home movies and reminisce with them! Explain that you want to spend time with them most of all. My kids are all off doing other things right now and I'm like "Whewwwwwwwww" ...we've been together for two days and I think we're all ready for a little alone time. Have another child?? YIKES! You're almost there!! Things will never be how it used to be, it's time to evolve. If you have time and the need to give to another child, consider fostering a child. There are many out there that need love and attention. Good luck and cheer up!
2007-12-25 20:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start developing outside interests that do not involve your kids. The kids see things quite differently as they go through this stage. We had that. They came back. Christmas was nice this year even though their dad died a few months ago. We are all sticking together. Why not find another way to be involved with kids other than having another? Believe me, you will, in time, enjoy your time with your husband and the chance to do things that you could not do while the kids were home. Good luck.
2007-12-25 22:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by Simmi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids live 3,000 miles from me, and i'm alone today, but i had a nice dinner with a friend, and am enjoying myself by doing some things which i like to do.
Life changes when our kids get older -- and so does christmas... used to be a lot of hustle and bustle, kids in and out of my house, grandkids, too.
Now my kids have their own families, and we talk on the phone frequently -- even for christmas.
I think the memories i have held close to my heart are really great! I'm glad i have them and that i can occupy my time and enjoy my own company.
Make new memories with your husband as your kids get older? The possibilities are endless.
happy holidays
2007-12-25 20:25:26 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look forward to the grandkids and get a pet. the wife got out puppy lots of cheap presents and it was quite a site playing with her and the toys. she would go get one from the tree and open it on the couch play with it a minute and go to get another. the older ids should know what christmas is really about and not need much anymore. Invite family and friends for a get together to get your attention. just figure what you want to do and do this.
2007-12-25 20:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really tough--families of divorce may face similar situations. You could save up some of your favorite activities for the day--for instance, plan a long, hot bath or line up the newest book by your favorite author. Write letters or emails to friends you haven't had time to contact during the year. Or you might consider volunteering for a few hours at the local nursing home or hospital. Helping others always makes you feel better about yourself!
2007-12-25 20:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by sillygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hav no words to comfort you but if it would hav been possible i would hav come around and gave you a big hug. Well i say go and get a pet. He is the best friend and above all u hav ur husband he is going to be around.. Do something have a dance or water the plants or just see a movie and this feeling wil go bye..... Lots and lots of hugs and comfort to you... Actually i was missing my mom as i am not with her today and seeing your concern it just feels a little bit.... Take care
2007-12-25 20:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by jags20_us 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋