2007-12-25 12:02:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am in a closed relationship. There are too many risks. The other girl could get pregnant. You can get diseases, etc.. I am happily married and want to stay that way.
2007-12-25 12:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
open marriage can be a good thing but only if you have complete trust......which we my wife and I do by the way. Also, most people think that this life style is one big orgy after another or constant swapping of partners. I guess some do but we as well as most of the others we know only enjoy the company of other partners on a sometime basis.
Oh, by the way, we are extremely happy and content with our relationship. We have been married for 11 years and together for almost 15. Our open marriage started around 5 years ago. Nothing else has changed.
2007-12-25 20:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by fn_49@hotmail.com 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am currently in an open polyamorous relationship. My primary partner and I have been together for almost 6 years and have, for the last fifteen months, lived with her other male partner. Within the last year, I've been slowly developing a loving relationship with a woman who lives about 40 minutes away.
Open relationships, whether swinging or polyamorous are not a way to fix an ailing relationship. In fact, it will serve to highlight hidden stresses and flaws in the relationship--people can make it work when those issues come up if they have a strong commitment to the honesty, communication, trust, and respect necessary to face those issues. A monogamous marriage cannot thrive without those qualities, but it can exist by some fashion. A non-mongamous relationship cannot exist for long without those qualities.
We are very happy. Having a relationship with another person does not in anyway diminish the live and commitment we have for each other. We've both been poly since our youth (late 70's early 80's), so the concept of loving more than one is an essential part of our makeup. We aren't without or insecurities from time to time, but we have a strong commitment to deal with them.
These kinds of relationships are definitely not for everyone. They require extra work and awareness, but for some of us, the emotional and psychological rewards are worth it. This includes being part of a supportive community.
I'm not sure if you are considering an open relationship for yourself, but good luck to you whatever you decide.
2007-12-26 15:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by Donald J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read some of these answers and I couldn't stop lauging. Open marriages eventually fall apart!??!?! LOL What a bunch of liars. Normal marriages don't fall apart?!?! I wish you could be a fly on the wall with all these happily married couples that answered your question LOL All the men are cheating and almost all the women are cheating. Do you know why?!?!? Because they are all miserable. An open marriage might be your only hope for true happiness because you aren't going to get it from a normal marriage!!! All the married women that answered this question stop lying to yourself!!! Don't believe me, check your husband's cell phone records including his work cell phone. Check all your husband's email addresses including work not just the email he uses with you GOOD LUCK!!! And if he doesn't give you the passwords guess why not!!!
2007-12-25 21:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open marriages eventually fall apart. When you can't be true to the other person what's the point of even being married.
2007-12-25 20:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is foolish to look for happiness from others.
True happiness comes from your own self living according to your own morals and beliefs.
Good luck.
2007-12-25 20:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never been happy since day one. I married the wrong woman.
2007-12-25 21:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by Pain_of_Unhappiness2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Closed and Happy!
2007-12-25 20:05:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i was in an open relationship and it imploded onto itself. in that kind of relationship you have to have total honesty, and really like the other (third) person. while we did, and i did, *HE* wasnt honest about who he was. live and learn. be very careful if you are contemplating this form of lifestyle.
2007-12-25 20:13:26 · answer #9 · answered by mel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm polyamorous, and I derive much richness from my multiple loves.
2007-12-27 02:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by Pyrophage 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋