I need your opinions, experiences with this situation or suggestions...thanks!
2007-12-25 11:48:45 · 28 answers · asked by God Bless America!~ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only you know your reasons for taking him back. I can tell you that it will be hard to build up that trust again. My suggestion is to try counseling. My experience is from other people and I will share that the hardest hurdle to overcome is that nagging thought that he might do it again, wondering where he is, etc. And on his part the guilt and the anger over you not trusting even though he knows you have reasons, that is why I suggest a counselor to overcome those issues. If you are both committed to working it out then I say give it your all. Once can be called a mistake but twice is a choice. We are all entitled to be forgiven for a mistake....Good luck
2007-12-25 12:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
No the woman is not stupid for taking back a cheating man, If he does it again and you take him back then you would fall under this classification of stupid. If the man is truely sorry for what he did and is truely regretful of his actions, he will go out of his way to make you happy, not cheat again, and eventualy earn your trust. The trust issue is not something you just give him overnight, he will have to earn that, you can forgive him and work towards making your marriage better, but as far as trusting him, Make him earn that. and dont bring it up again, once you forgive someone you forget it,. If he is regretful of his actions he will have realized what a jerk he was and he will make every effort to show you that.
2007-12-25 12:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by john d 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You're only shot at getting your ex back is to follow the right steps that will make her ask you to get back together. Learn here https://tr.im/MFiNQ
Maybe if you broke up with her, then you might be able to be the one who brings up the subject of getting back together. But if you can do it without, it would be much better. But how do you get someone back without seeming desperate? In order to get your ex girlfriend attention, you have to show value without telegraphing your interest in her, while at the same time initiating interaction. So don't ignore your ex texts and calls when they break up with you. It screams that you are so devastated by the breakup that you can't even handle talking to her. You want to respond to her, but do it in the right way. You can even initiate communication if you do it in the right way. You have to maintain a strong frame of confidence, and show your ex girlfriend that your happiness isn't dependent on being with her
2016-05-01 02:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that I am stupid for taking my husband back after what he had done. We both made mistakes...(I made mine after I learned what he did), and we are giving our marriage everything we have to make it work. We do love each other very much and tell each other every day just how important we are to each other. I don't know what my life would be like without my husband in it. I don't want to know a day like that. We did live apart for a while, we both found comfort in someone else's arms (again), but knowing that we hurt each other has cause us pain and it's a pain that we don't want to go thru again. I love my husband and he love me....I believe he is trying to make our marriage work and I am doing the same. I don't think or believe that neither one of us is stupid.
2007-12-25 13:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
His only regret was that you found out. Once a cheater always a cheater in my book. Once they cross that line it becomes a trust factor if I don't trust you I can't maintain a healthy loving relationship with you. No you aren't stupid just a bit naive take this as a learning experience and move on.
2007-12-25 11:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Aphreakywuman 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No woman is stupid for following her heart. True, she may have had her trust and love violated by the actions of someone who is supposed to be her life partner, but only you two (or three) people know the full circumstances and events. It will always be your decision to make and if people try to tell you that you are stupid for taking back a cheating man (or woman) then just tell them to mind their own damn business.
2007-12-26 00:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by No one 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
YES!! I forgave my EX three times until I finally realized that he was never going to change and that I was stupid for not realizing it the first time. Just pick up and move on and it will save a lot of heartache in the end
2007-12-25 11:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by LCMarie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i often wonder the same. my man cheated with his ex about a year ago but hasn't since so its not true that once a cheater always a cheater but it is hard to trust again i have that problem now but i love him and he's been good for a year now so i don't think it will ever happen again. if he does cheat then thats it i'm gone so i think you should give him second chance then if he does it again leave and never come back.
2007-12-25 12:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by luvkisses 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't consider myself stupid for taking back my husband. I have no regrets at all. Only advise I can give is to live in the present and not dwell on the past. But, be darn sure he is really committed to you and has earned back your trust. Time will help and so will talking with him and letting him open up to you. Treat each other with respect and don't ever take your love for granted.
2007-12-25 16:05:01 · answer #9 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
no shes not stupid because im a man that has did sum thing stupid to my girl and regret and after u see how much u hurt the person u love u want do it again and if he really loves u then hes not gonna do it again
2007-12-25 11:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋