Okay, I don't know how to stop her. My friend wants to get pregnant and have a kid. She's only 14!! She says that she 'doesn't want to miss out on life' and wants to have a kid now. She claims to have a plan, her parents will take care of the kid so she can go to school then she'll live with some friends at an apartment for college and THEY'LL take care of the baby for her while she's at schol. I tell her it won't work but she says she has it all figured out. Please help.
2007-12-25 11:27:19 · 27 answers · asked by bangle678 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
she can come take care of one of mine tell her it not all craked up to be wakeing up every 3 hours then having to go to school baby sidk missing school cant go with freinds no more movies nice clothes dances anything im 15 i have 4 kids 2, 10months, and 3 week old twins in hospital tell her to email me i can give it to her stright up sexychick90392@yahoo.com
2007-12-25 11:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by sexychick90392 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God, that would be a huge mistake! There's no way that having a child at 14 can be a good thing! What is her parents don't want to take care of the child? Not ALL plans all foolproof! Make sure she knows this! She will have plenty of time to have a child when she's an adult, she doesn't have to grow up so fast!
2007-12-25 11:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by Amelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her parents what she has planed..
She has a baby now, her life will revolve around the baby, she won't be able to go to college after high school. It will be hard to find a job to pay for the things that the baby needs...
She is living a fantasy life right now. Reality will hit her hard if she does get pregnant.
2007-12-25 11:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by Taz 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Haha, she is funny. If she doesn't want to miss out on life, most people would do the opposite. Just explain to her why this won't work. You seem pretty smart, so tell her what you think. Give her details. Have her baby sit or volunteer in a daycare center after school to really see how it is for a brief time.
2007-12-25 12:17:02 · answer #4 · answered by RearFace@18mo. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need to tell an adult! you can show her how much a child costs, do up a fake budget. take her to shops and price diapers, wipes, bottles, clothes and such, write it all down. take into account that SHE will ultimately be alone in all of this, regardless of what she thinks aobut her parents. so when you add up the costs and usage of all of these items, go into the formula section and take into account a food allergy, the soy based formula is like 60 for a big can. that the child will need at least every2 weeks. not to mention that your body is never going to be the same again. there will be no prom no dates. and most teenage boys dont want a built in family to date. there wont be any money for her, for clothes, makeup and such, it will all go to the baby. her life will never be the same again. the big part of all of this is she may have help but ultimatley she is going to miss most of her "fun" part of life, there just isnt much money to spend on yourself anymore. and if she really wants to "not miss out on life" she needs to cross her legs now! and wait till she gets through college and can at least support herself let alone another mouth, body and soul!
2007-12-25 11:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by peanutran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her parent and try to explain to her why you think it a bad ideal like how she will miss out on a really great part of he life like not going to party cuz she has to take care of her baby and like she not gonna get to finish school b/c it gonna be to stress full to balance taking care of a child and school work. Also I really don't think her parent want to be babysitter . hope this help. take care and have a good holidays
2007-12-25 11:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Mizz Trini♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but your friend is a real dumbass. She can't depend on other people to take care of her child. Has she even thought about daddy? i would warn her parents. she may get mad but she'll regret it one day if she goes through with her plans. She'd be missing out on a lot of milestones as a teenager if she is raising a child.
2007-12-25 13:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem smarter than her. Tell her parents, she might be mad but if she is really your friend she will get over it. I know it might seem like you are being a snitch but if you really care about your friend then you will try to protect her. Tell her labor is very painful and life is not a big game. she will have plenty of time to have children later. Just keep being a good friend and keep trying to convince her. Good luck
2007-12-26 06:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by Slim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, having a kid is what is going to cause her to miss out! Talk to her parents if she wont listen to you, 14 is to young to have a kid.
2007-12-26 03:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by xXsummndXx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a baby to have someone else taking care of it is not fair !
girls like that is what put a bad name on teen mothers ..Not all teen mothers are like that..though we get judged because the rest do what your friend wants to do.
she should have a baby when she is ready to take care of it herself !!! she should not have a kid..if she is not going to raise it...if she wants to finish school..well then finish school then think about it...and does she even have a boyfriend..? she's just going to go find someone to have sex with for a kid?.. thats not good..she needs to think it over... ALOT..before she actually does something about it.
2007-12-25 12:39:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋