has someone you didnt know talked bad about you before?

Question

one or two of my brothers friends were talking bad about me but the funny thing is that i have never spoken to one of them before and barely the other. Is it jealousy ? im smart...good looking...nothings really wrong with me. have yall ever done that to anyone?

Answer 1

If we are being honest with ourselves, we all have done this at one time or another to friends, family, celebrities, politicians, etc. Do we really know these people? No, but it doesn't stop us from expressing our opinions. It's human nature; however, slander or outright malicious talk to damage someone is unacceptable.

As one great philosopher said, "Know thyself". I say, "Love thyself". Basically, don't let others dictate who you are or your worth. Remember, you are special and unique which is GREAT! How boring would it be if we were all clones. They may be jealous or just mean-spirited but who cares!

I figure it this way. They are the losers if they need to talk disparagingly about someone to make themselves feel better. So don't even give them the time of day. You know you got it going on and that is all that matters!

Answer 2

I know the feeling. My kid sister once brought home a boyfriend who had a dislike for me at first sight and whispered to her "Who's that guy?" Fortuantely, she eventually dropped him even though my dad put some pressure on her to do it.

It may be a case where your brother's friend simply doesn't like you too. People don't always base their dislikes of other people on facts or rational thinking. Sometimes it may be a case where you remind them of somebody they knew in the past who hurt or offended them. Many people are also afraid of someone who is educated or intelligent and can instinctively sense it.

Some scientists think that we might even give off invisible biochemical signals which other people unconsciously smell. If the smell is disagreeable to them they are not going to like you.

The best thing for you to do is to just stay away from these guys. Many friendships don't last - probably the majority of them - and there is a good possibility your brother will eventually part company with these fellows.

Answer 3

Yeah--it happens--just ignore it---BUT if you find it to be nasty, threatening, and it truly interferes with your life--you better get all the details and then approach the person for answers--stand tall--do not threaten--listen closely and then expect to see a nervous person shaking their knees because they got caught. A truly "IN CONTROL" man will stand tall--stare into their eyes, and make it clear that the behavior is childish,immature and YOU will not tolerate it again. No threats--no yelling---no pushing---just stand steady and firm. Believe me----no man likes a stand tall type man--they are scary when they don't do all the yelling and stuff. Of course have your hands up and ready--one across your chest doing a very slight collar adjustment--that is a good block in case the guy throws a punch-- be ready to bob and weave--that is why you want to stare into his eyes--the eyes will tell you what he might try and where he plans to swing. Don't keep your arms down. If the guy is big and insists on being an assh--e, when he swings--you weave and then give him ONE shot to the adam's apple---problem solved. Then walk away.

Answer 4

It was the right choice to respect her privacy. When she is ready she will tell you and until then you are just going to have to accept that. to make it better say you are sorry and tell her you don't really need to know (honestly you don't because she is with you now and that is all that matters) and if she ever wants to talk you will always listen (Best line to use to get girls to tell you something).

Answer 5

Well back in high school, there was a gay guy who was friends with my female friend. I heard from one of them that he didn't like me, and they wondered why because I've never spoken to him once in my entire life. I never knew this guy. I just ignored it the rest of the time and the problem went away. Hopefully it wasn't true...but if it was, who cares?

Answer 6

Yes I have been apart of both, talking ignorantly about something or someone I didn’t know and it has happened to me. As rotten and inconsiderate as this is it is called human nature. We are animals of habit and we do weird things. The best thing to do is ignore it and just shrug it off. It just goes to show how ignorant those people are being and how.....LOOK I AM DOING IT NOW. I am judging those people for judging you. SEE I TOLD YOU!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Yeah this guy at school who i didnt even know. I olny talk to my close friends. I met a friend who i hadnt seen in a long time and he told me the guy said that i was emo and that my friend shouldnt hang out with me. I guess my friends were talking about me. It was so weird.

Answer 8

Yeah, I have and this was someone whom I've never met nor they met me, they just knew of me. This is a clear case of certain females with issues. I think it was jealousy on her part, and part of the unknown she just decided she didn't like me.

Answer 9

YEs, I'm sure it has many times,

In my 28 years on thios planet i would say that has happened to everyone multiple times

ANd yes it points out insecurity and jealousy


Jerry S. Who answered this question above me pretty much says it all.

Answer 10

It happens all the time....think about the celebrities who get talked about and many people don't know them personally; its only HEARSAY! Its immature and senseless and no I don't promote it! For the most part you should allow it to only to penetrate the outer layer of your skin and slide off!