Everyday my mom ignores me and yells at me. I might ask her a simple question like, "Do we have any ketchup?" and I may only be a few feet away from her, yet she ignores me. I usually have to ask it 5-6 times before she acknowledges me and then she yells at me like "WHAT DO YOU WANT?!" I end up repeating the same question a few more times because she goes back to ignoring me and at the same time wondering why she is yelling at me and ignoring me in the first place. BUT! If she asks me a question and I don't respond immediately, she will freak out that I am ignoring her. Other times, she won't ignore me but just freak out. I asked if I could go to Zellers with my Gift card and get a pair of head phones and she just flipped right out. She was yelling and swearing and all of this crap. I'm like,"it is just a question". But everyday she WILL sometime for some reason pretend I am not there trying to talk to her. If I ask her why she does this, she will either ignore me still or yell at me.
2007-12-25 11:06:37 · 16 answers · asked by Tim Buck 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Why does my mom ignore me and yell at me all the time over such simple things?
2007-12-25 11:07:00 · update #1
I don't know. My mom does this too. Some women do suck! Anyways, don't feel bad....my dad is worse.
2007-12-25 11:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why she is doing this. But my guess would be that she is stressed out!!
my mom does the same thing when she is under too much stress.
Try asking her positive questions once and a while. Like, can i help you with dinner, or how was your day...
Then if she snaps at you, and your asking a positive question, she might realize how rude she's being.. and will probably listen better when you have other questions to ask that involve you.
Also, try to be there for your mom. Make her the victim even though it's really you...
Ask her how she has been lately... what you've noticed, and how you can help.
2007-12-25 19:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by Julia K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More details. How old are you? How old is mom? How many in the family? Are you one of the oldest or youngest? Is there a dad? Is she the one who works and brings in the money and does the cleaning and cooking?
Sounds like both of you could be helped by a couple of counseling sessions. Try your guidance counselor at school. This could be a way to open up a solid line of communication with your mom, and work to some solutions.
More details would be helpful here.
Sounds like she's overwhelmed somewhere else in her life.
UNLESS you are the type of person who is in their own little world and doesn't interact with her except to ask where the ketchup is....is your room a mess, do you stay out till all hours, etc.....
I wonder what her side of the story sounds like?
Maybe you could write her a letter and try to make contact that way. Tell her you love her and you want to help make it easier on her. Ask her what she would like from you. That kind of thing.
Do talk to your guidance counselor.
Blessings.
2007-12-25 19:27:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your mom has some mental issues. It may be that she is in her own little world and does not want to be disturbed. She could have health issues causing it. There could be a dozen other reasons. This is not going to get better until she gets treatment. Talk to an adult -aunt, uncle, school worker, church person, friend's parent - someone you trust, tell them what's going on and ask them to help. She needs help. In the mean time, make sure that you are doing your part - cleaning up after yourself, doing homework, not being a smart mouth, etc. I know that you are in a frustrating situation and that it is hard to put up with. Hang in there. I hope you can get her (and you) some help.
2007-12-25 19:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by busymomkaren 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be easier to answer you question if you said more about yourself. For example; your age, attitude towards her, your friends, habits, etc. Bear in mind that no mother want to make her offspring suffer. Your mom probably is under a lot of stress, it could be financial or emotional. Are you of an age to help financially? Do you tell your mom that you love her? Ever bring her flowers? Even wild flowers will make her happy. Do you help around the house? You see, it is a lot easier to see other people's faults than our own. I am not passing judgment
2007-12-25 19:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by ladytita48 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first response. She's in her own world thinking about something that is obviously very upsetting. She should at least realize not to take it out on you. My mom did this also. The tricky part is that they are completely unresponsive to questions in the first place, so it's not like you can ask what's wrong. Maybe a simple wordless gesture like a hug could help open a dialog.
2007-12-25 19:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is under a lot of stress and doesnt feel supported. It might be worth asking mom to sit down and talk about this. Ask her to listen to what you have to say before she responds. Tell her what you think and how you feel, and include that her actions make you feel bad about things, and that you care about her. Then hear what she has to say. Tell her you want to resolve this so you can have a better relationship. Hopefully she will feel more supported and you will have better times with her! Good luck!
2007-12-25 19:31:17 · answer #7 · answered by want to travel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your Mom may be stressed out, and is in need of a vacation, or needs time to herself. Sometimes when we are stressed, we don't realize how we treat others. Surprise her and do something nice for her that she doesn't expect, and see if that gets her attention. It sounds like she may just need some alone time, like a nice long hot bath, or a pedicure, or just to be alone to read a book or watch a favorite movie. She should set aside each day or evening an hour to just do something she enjoys without interruptions till she feels better. Hope something I mentioned helps!
2007-12-25 19:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by autumn wolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think that ur mom is just in her own little world and she doesnt realize that shez ignoring you. and when she flips out because u dont answer her its because shez insecure about lozing u and she doesnt want that to happen. at the same time if u just go and reassure her that ur there for her with a hug or a kiss or something she'll realize that ur there for her and that u wont leave. REmember its always best to give then to receive. So dont expect that much from her. I think she has alot of worries on her mind and she is always thinking about them. do ur best to get along.
2007-12-25 19:18:29 · answer #9 · answered by Ania Mania 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she maybe angry at you about something. The cold treatment she is giving you is her way of venting anger, probably to stop herself from being too harmful. Have you tried sending her a note? Here is also another way to break the ice; Wrap yourself in a big red ribbon and surprise her at dinner time! Try being a little more understanding that she isn't perfect and "neither are you." but then that means we are all alike then doesn't it? Stop trying so earnestly, be patient with yourself, she will come around if you make yourself available.
2007-12-25 19:14:56 · answer #10 · answered by wiu_stu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Has anyone considered that she might be hard-of-hearing and doesn't want to admit it to herself or anyone else? When someone brings it up, it increases the frustration she
already has.
Why don'tyou google symptoms of the hard-of-hearing, learn all about it and find out if anything can be done. If not, just learn to tolerate it.
It's not a big thing to tolerate.
2007-12-25 19:34:05 · answer #11 · answered by gulfbreeze8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋