Why did you get married?

Question

Why did you get married, and how is your relationship now? I'm simply curious to see the reasoning behind your decision.

Answer 1

I married because my boyfriend at the time said he had six months to live. It took me a long time to figure out that truth wasn't his strong suit. I've been divorced for ten years.

Answer 2

I got married in 1971 after waiting for 7 years for my wife to finish high school and college. I loved her. I spent most that time getting advanced degrees and doing science. We were to get married in 1970 but she called it off saying she wasn't ready to be married (after 6 years of dating). A year of sadness and suddenly she's ready. I'm in a significant project with a new physical principle. Not thinking as clearly as possible but it's still my dream even after the heartbreak. So we're married. Later she tells me she married to get away from her parents. I decide that I change her outlook.
Ten years after we marry our first child is born. Very happy but our marriage isn't working well. Money is more important than anything except the child. Very little intimacy. Two more children are born and all intimacy stops. I begin to think she has another man in her life but can't prove it. Children are grown and independent. Marriage is a financial relationship only. My scientific accomplishments are rewarding and my children are a true joy. The rest of my life is not worth living. Moral - have a clear understanding about wants and needs and how they are to be fulfilled before marriage.

Answer 3

The first or second time, just kidding, sorry!
The first time was because I was stupid, I was 16 and thought it was a good way to escape the crap at home. I was raised by my brother cuz my mom died when I was 9, and I hated being in a military household where I had to almost ask permisssion to pee! Well, I divorced after 3 children and a nervous breakdown due to the weekly beatings, etc...
The second time was strange. My great nephew had gotten shot and was in the hospital and in critical condition. I stayed there 24/7 with him. My current hubby was his PCA at the time and we became good friends as I assist him working on my nephew. I was in no way looking for a man in my life, but there he was!!! So, the second time, it was for love, and it is great even 12 years later!

Answer 4

I got married 21 years ago, and my relationship has improved over the years - I am far more comfortable with my husband, and the comfort level improves all the time. I think to share your inner most thoughts and feelings with someone, and KNOW that they will not judge you, but direct you; not ridicule you, but enhance you, is a great feeling. I want my daughter to also marry a man like her dad......I would be extremely disappointed if she doesn't. I think what most impresses me about my husband, is the fact that he allows me my space, when he knows I need it; and, I know that when I have a problem, he is the only one I turn to.

If I had to do it all over again, the only thing I would change, is to have met him sooner.

Answer 5

Good question....
I am in my 2nd marriage, married in June of '06.
Before that, I was married for 24 years to an asshole, who finally left me to marry his "affair" *****.

When I met my current hubby, everything felt so right---much more so than when I married the 1st time at 19!
I now realize that this man is the one fate intended--but it wasn't the right time to meet until I'd gone through the rest.
We are very happy together!

Answer 6

I married, because I felt it was the right time. We've been married for a little over a year now, and things are still going great.

Answer 7

I don't think I will get married. I SERIOUSLY need to know someone inside and out to be legally joined to them and I don't think alot of people know a person as extensively as they shouldn't, before they marry...because it takes so much time to know someone that by the time you should marry, its been so long...why bother?!

As I get older, I am also tired of hearing from other marrieds, about how sex stops in a marriage, how you get bored, how respect starts to seep away, how communication continues to break down.... People who understand that love is forever, don't do this to eachother... And if they do, then you just end up finding out that it wasn't love. And I don't want to wake up and be confronted with that.

Answer 8

.I got married because I fell in Love for the first time.. I was young 19 going on 20 and he was 26 going on 27. we had our share of problems...but we work through them and love has been and still is strong.

Answer 9

I got married because I felt so strongly in love with my spouse that I knew he was the one I wanted to commit and spend the rest of my life with. We are doing greater than ever, just when I thought I couldn't love him any more, I find myself falling for him more and more.

Answer 10

I was in love.
10 years of bugging, neglecting, lying down the line I am in love again but not with my husband.
I am thinking that can't be right; if I was still in love my husband I would not be able to fall in love with somebody else, right?
I still love him but in a different way - not the I am madly in love and want to spent every second touching you, talking to you or at least looking at you kind of way.