he loves her and she loves him but she's older than .. i mean 1 year is between them .. and now she's getting married vecause of her parents and they won't accept of her marrieng someone who's younger than her but she's in love with him and they don't know what to do!! they don't know if they have the chance to be together and the guy didn't finished college yet so he can go and talk to her parents and she asks them to take the wedding off but they rejected that!! what shall they doo please tell me what shall i tell him to do??
2007-12-25 10:45:45 · 16 answers · asked by blair 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeahh .. but didn't u think why im posting this question here???
because her parents think that it's NOT HER CHOICE!! they want her to marry that guy!! that's why i asked what shall they do!!! it's complicated
2007-12-25 10:50:50 · update #1
The parents needs to keep their opinions to themselves. Tell her to marry the guy that she is in love with.
2007-12-25 10:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anna 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean to say this young woman is getting married to someone she does not love because her parents require it? How old is this woman? How did it happen that she is getting married to someone she supposedly doesn't love? It sounds as though you're not giving us all the information we need to answer the question.
If this young woman were truly in love with your friend, she wouldn't have been going out with anyone else, and there would't be anyone else for her to marry. We don't have arranged marriages in the United States -- or do we?
One year is not a big difference, and that difference will become increasingly less significant as time goes on. If this young woman truly loves your friend, then why would she allow anyone to push her in a different direction?
The young woman has every opportunity to say no to a wedding she doesn't want -- she can refuse to go along with the arrangements, she can refuse to pick out bridesmaids, to get a dress, to attend a shower, to apply for the marriage license, and even at the altar, she can still say no, I do not accept this man to be my lawful wedded husband!
Your scenario does not add up -- there is something more going on here!
2007-12-25 10:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by rkeech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she doesn't want to marry then she shouldn't marry him. If her parents pressure her then she should tell them exactly what she doesn't want, marraige is a big thing, and if she isn't ready and she doesn't want to then there you go, shes the one in the marriage so she gets to choose. Well tell him that its takes two to make a marraige and he should consider what she wants, i'm a little confused but i'll answer with what i got here, he wants to marry her but her parents are making her marry someone else? So if she loves that guy and he loves her, they could runaway together, or stay away from family for a little while till things cool down and then they can think it through, wether they want to got through with it or not. But if it doesn't work out that way then at the alter when the priest asks "do you take this man etc..." then jsut say no.....and run...
2007-12-25 11:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by Come again 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is but one thing they can do.....elope !! Couples have been doing it for generations, all over the world, some have risked their lives for it and at times have lost, but obviously the power of their love was that strong, to die, rather than go without. So if their love be that strong, this is but the only option. But this would put them in the " OUTS" with family, for who knows how long. Age is not the concern here, not 12 months, there's more to it than is being said, matters not.
2007-12-25 10:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by ferochira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of them truly love one another and want to be together then they need to find the courage to tell the girl's parents exactly how they feel and she should never, never, never marry someone simply because that's what her parents want her to do.
People need to live their own lives as they see fit without being influenced by the "god of other people's opinion".
2007-12-25 10:53:19 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girlfriend can just not show up to the wedding. Even though her parents may be mad at her for that, she can't be unhappy in a marriage. She can also sit down her parents and drill it into them that she wont be as happy with the other man. Or she can divorce the other guy.
2007-12-25 10:49:47 · answer #6 · answered by Ewa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ONE can make another person MARRY someone they dont want to Marry !!!
SO PLEASE...........if she didnt want to get married she wouldnt !!! And Parents cant make No one after they are of age marry someone they dont want to either.........and Your right there is MORE to this story then your letting people know.
IF SHE ""loved "" him...she would be with Him...unless he is just a plain a MESS ?? which sounds to me might be the thing...not cause he didnt finish college or stuff like that tere is MORE to this then is being TOLD i'm sure.......
So if SHE Marries cause someone else wants her to....tells me , he should count his blessings Now and instead of later !!
He is best without her . cause if one can make her marry that easily , one can persuade her to most anything.........SO tell Him to Move on...probably best for HIM !!!
2007-12-25 11:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by hghostinme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could tell her parents that she will marry who they want her to, but is going to sleep with the person she's in love with. She can ask them how they feel about that. It's up to her to drag her folks kicking and screaming into 21st century America!
2007-12-25 10:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by oogabooga37 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they don't want to get married just yet, then they shouldn't cave in to peer pressure. Yes, it may be her parents doing the pressuring, but it is the same thing as peer pressure. My ex's parent's were the same way. Notice the "ex", as in ex-husband. We weren't ready, even though we loved each other, or thought we loved each other.
2007-12-25 10:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by PuttPutt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of you would be able to desire to rigidity approximately this too plenty, 2 years is an prolonged time and ladies get extra related than adult men, so i think of she may be attempting to make you somewhat jealous, if there develop into something happening together with her and between the adult men she does no longer permit you recognize approximately it by employing dropping tricks, and in case you do communicate over together with her on msn, i could in simple terms shop it casual, ex. hows the holiday, what did you do right this moment, ect. like i suggested till now are not getting too apprehensive
2016-11-25 00:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋