I do not want to be with my husband anymore. I am not in love with him and I am convinced that it is the right decision. My problem is I have a sick baby girl that will require a lifetime of medical care. He keeps telling me not to leave b/c he wants to take care of us and it would be too hard on her (she's 12 months old). I feel that since I am not happy with him, she will be better off if we are not together. Need some advice, sorry if I've been too vague. Is is possible to fall out of love & absolutely not want to be married anymore? I've talked to a counselor & he thinks it's b/c of the situation with my child. I know better though, I've felt this way for a long time. Thanks for any advice. My personal feeling on this is that life's too short to be unhappy & worry about someone elses feelings as opposed to my happiness. (Ex. staying with him b/c I feel bad leaving)
2007-12-25 10:42:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first thing you need to realize is that you and you alone are responsible for your happiness.
Next you need to know that the easiest person for you to fool is yourself. So you need to do some soul searching and make sure you are not deceiving yourself.
Then when you get to decisions time, you need to make those decisions that effect and change your life without looking back.
Finally, you need to know that you are a physical, emotional, AND spiritual person. If you want to be healthy and happy, you need to be healthy in all three areas of your life.
Good luck. I will pray for you and your daughter.
2007-12-25 10:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-23 00:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-01-28 16:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your daughter no matter what her illness is will pick up the fact that you are not happy, they can feel the tension. If you have tried everything and you seriously are not happy, you cannot stay around just to make him happy. Life is too short to not enjoy. He can take care of the child and not live in the same household. Only leave though if you are positive that there is no chance of finding what you once had with him..
2007-12-25 10:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't be happy or pretend to make a marriage work if your heart is not in it. Sometimes parents stay together for the children's sake which is a bad idea. Kids pick up the tension among other things. In your case, for medical reasons isn't it still possible that your husband could still provide medical expenses for your child til they r 18 or you remarry? Check the laws in your state.It is the husband's fatherly right to provide for their children's needs until 18 or over..Follow your heart for only u know how u feel, life is too short ....take care ..
2007-12-25 10:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-02-03 05:13:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right! You can't waste away in the wrong relationship forever. Your daughter's feelings are very important in this situation, but after she's grown, she'll have to understand that you have a right to try and be happy as well. Make sure you cover your bases and both of you continue to have a LOT of contact with your daughter.
2007-12-25 10:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by oogabooga37 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First speak with your husband to see if you can reconcile any problems. If not successful, go to together to marriage counseling. If you then still want divorce, consider the financial situation. Your husband will still have to pay for his child. If with that you can support your self and the baby, divorce. If not, you will have to wait until you can.
2007-12-25 11:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do fall out of love. I'd leave and would obtain a divorce and would get a coourt order on him for child support and that he has to carry medical insurance on our daughter.
2007-12-25 11:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you fell out of love then you were holding your end of the comminment.
No I don't think you should leave I think you need to get to know your husband again and fall in love again.
2007-12-25 11:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋