I have given my son everything there is no reason to steal i dont understand anymore. He is 16 years old and its killing me . He doesnt get it he is wearing me out!!!!!!! And i know your going to say im soft but, i real havent been i have been tough when i needed too.
2007-12-25 10:28:39 · 30 answers · asked by slipsip30 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Time to use Tough Love. You said you have given your son everything. That's the problem. He thinks he is entitled. Sit him down and tell him it stops now. Figure out how you are going to protect the stuff you have. Call the police if he steals. Make an issue of it. You are not helping your son by letting him do this. It will be a lot worse when he is of age, and, the consequences will be a lot worse too. Good luck.
2007-12-25 14:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the stealing isn't about the money or even buying things but he's acting out for some other reason. Get some help, look further. He may be seeking your attention or something else is going on. Don't ignore it, try to find out what's at the root of this behavior. Good luck.
2007-12-25 18:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by Q-mama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all find out what does he need the money for.
Just to make sure it is not about drugs or similar.
Also it could be that he just likes to wind you up or is a Kleptomaniac I think is the word.
He is only 16 so it should not be killing you - have you spoken to him about it?
does he have any pocket money? Maybe he met a girl who is a bit more demanding - there could be a lot of simple explanations.
My kid is 6 and lies a lot even though I tell her there is no need I won't get upset - she still does it anyway. Kids can be strange sometimes for no reason.
2007-12-25 18:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes stealing is symptomatic of drug use; I know this is not the kind of answer a father wants to hear (nor is it the kind of supposition I like to make),but if that's the case it puts things into perspective and also suggests a course of action for addressing the situation. If that is the cause, then seek to remedy that cause instead of focusing on the theft. Once that cause has been sufficiently eliminated, the resulting aberrant behavior should also vanish. Good luck to you all.
2007-12-25 18:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he need money at 16?
That is what you need to find out. As the reason why he needs money is the real problem, not that he is stealing - that is a second problem
And dont think that when he is visiting at his friends house that he isnt stealing there too.
He needs money for something and you need to find out what and get him into counseling = rehab.
2007-12-25 19:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by sammy3256 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you three sit together and decide that your son will manage the home (only for a week, on trial) and give him your, her and his own indents and give him that money which you spend in a week? See the result. But never try to steal from him in turn.
This will do wonder. Report after you find it working magic.
2007-12-25 18:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by sv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also had a child steel from me, It started out small a little money here and there.. I too was soft.. After several times of hearing i'm sorry I won't do it again... He did it again and took several hundered dollars out of my checking account.. I called the police and had him arrested, It was the hardest thing I have ever done, but I think god I did, because I found out he was buing drugs and I may have saved his life... Get it under control now..................Good Luck
2007-12-25 18:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by gina67000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your son using the money for? I would question if he is using it to buy illegal drugs if you say he has everything. I would seriously investigate the use of the money he is stealing if you are not seeing anything tangible from it. Drug use can provoke this type of behavior.
2007-12-25 18:59:05 · answer #8 · answered by cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son may need some additional help that only a professional can give him. I would guess steeling is a way to let you know he's go a problem. He's lucky to have you. Get him there quickly.
2007-12-25 18:35:17 · answer #9 · answered by folklore 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set up all your monthly payments on direct pay meaning they are deducted from your paycheck. use only credit cards with passwords. do not use debit cards. keep no money in the house. treat your son as a criminal. Call the police and have them come to the house and explain the penalties of stealing from your parents.
a younger brother of mine stole from my parents, me and another brother gave him a choice. he stopped and returned cash equivalent to all he stole.
2007-12-25 22:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by bardmere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋