i have lost my wife, sorry for asking this?

Question

my wife died 7 months ago. do u think it is to early to look for a new relationship, i havent got a clue how to go about it, we were together so long, 40 years.even tho i miss her so much i feel i need a partner, do u think i am wrong. ( drop the phone, it could happen 2 u one day, plus on the spelling have u never use short cuts. every one els thanks 4 ur advice.

drop the phone, ur not worth the energy to type a reply.

thanks everyone.

only a minimum, ur a wind up merchant,

goodby. p.s. maybe iv spelt that wrong. i also thought this site was 4 advice not argument.

thanks, you,v taken my mind of things for a while, all good fun , but my question is true. goodnite and happy new year.

thanks every one

Answer 1

If you are ready to move on then it is not too early.... but if you are still not sure about it then wait for a while till you are. You will always mourn over your the loss of your wife no matter what because you loved and still love her for 40 years. But make sure to remember that the new lady that comes in to your life will never replace the women you been with 40 years. However, make sure the person you find is shown your genuine love for her and not because you need a partner xx

Best wishes x

Answer 2

I understand your very lonely but you need to give yourself more time to grieve and heal. You are very vulnerable right now and your good judgment may not be up to par yet. I don't think you are wrong for wanting a new relationship, that is very natural. I would suggest that you get involved in some outside activities and a church where you can find male companionship to fulfill your empty time right now. Many people who jump into a new relationship after losing a spouse make unwise relational choices only to end up back where they left in their grieving process not to mention the failure of the new relationship. I know it's hard to ride it out and give yourself time to heal, but you'll be doing yourself a bigger favor than you realize. Best wishes to you and I am sorry for your loss. What you are going through is an extremely difficult time in your life and you wonder if you will ever feel whole again but I assure you that you will. Move on with your life but give yourself more time before you dive into new relationship with a female. There is a time and a season for everything. God Bless you.

Answer 3

My husband died almost 8 months ago. What I would be concerned about is that you haven't finished grieving over your first wife. That could be a problem in a new relationship. There is nothing wrong in it, if that is what you want to do. Just be sure you aren't carrying old baggage from your previous marriage that is still so fresh. Good luck.

Answer 4

IF you are asking, either you are not ready or you are simply looking for pity. Being married for 40 years means you are of an age where you simply don't give a damn what others think - so why ask??

Be happy you had those 40 years - cherish them - and know you are still alive. If you have found someone, more power to you. Move on and enjoy what's left of your life.

And don't be looking for a partner just because - you were single before getting married, being single again won't kill you.

Answer 5

If you feel that you are ready then just go ahead and meet other people.
I think it is normal that you need somebody since you always had your wife there to keep you company.
You don't have to go into a romantic relationship straight away - maybe start by making friends.
I am guessing that you are around 60 so you could try some clubs, dancing classes, bingo etc.
Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Oh dear poor you. Well if you feel ready to meet someone then the time must be right. Only you know how you are feeling. Loneliness is terrible and wanting some company is not a bad thing to feel awful about. Go ahead and maybe join some clubs to meet new people and see how it goes. It may take some getting used to but you will eventually get there.

Answer 7

Having someone to help you get over your loss is a great idea. I cant imagine how lost and lonely you must feel. Just dont rush into getting remarried. I've known (older) people who were so lonely they remarried within 6 weeks of their partner dying - not a good idea, but everyone copes in their own way. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

Most people that have been with someone for a long time find it very hard when alone. I was with my ex for over 14 years and now we are apart. The holidays was really tough. I just keep hoping it will get better. I do not think it is wrong to want to meet someone. Good luck!

Answer 9

oh thats so sad. actually, im sort of afraid of my future, and having a husband because its so much to lose if he dies. but i think u r handling this very well. and, if u feel that u need a partner, well, then go out and find one, or use an internet dating site. dont be shy. and even if u are not completely over your wife, which im sure you are not, and unfortunately never fully will be, a new love could even help you through it and move on. i really hope you find someone else who is just as special as im sure your late wife was. Merry Christmas.

Answer 10

You're just feeling guilty; that maybe you still owe her your loyalty. You've lived up to your end of the marriage vow;

"Till death do you part."

If she can somehow communicate from the other side, I'm sure she would say that your happiness from having someone to love and keep you company, is more important than your feelings of guilt to seek out another companion.

Try online dating to meet women in your area. You can start out by just emailing each other, and going from there.