How do you find your true purpose in life? Which is the road to happiness?

Question

I am 32 years old and feel so listless and depressed. This is not the first time. I've felt like this for quite a long time. How do change your life? What is the magic solution?
Oftentimes, I feel like my looks are my only asset. I am told I look alot younger and get quite a few compliments. I hate feeling like this, because I know that youth and beauty don't last forever, and I must find something more substantial to offer.
I have been married for more than 5 years (no kids) and in the same relationship for 7 1/2. We often fight, because we can't make each other happy. I know it's not just him. I don't know how to make myself happy, and I feel like he isn't emotionally supportive of me and my dreams. I don't want to blame him for everything, because I know that half of the responsibility is mine. Sometimes, I wish to be free, but then I feel that freedom and happiness are so illusive. Where do I begin to find myself? I feel like if I turn in any direction, I'm still lost.

Answer 1

purpose in life falls into 2 big words which is the Present and the Looking. if someone is happy with her present life then the purpose is there if not look for other purpose. i think your partner is so identified with you that you feel guilty of enjoying yourself pamper your self get a new hobby,shopping whatever small pleasure "just for you". likewise if you think you can divorce him & find your own happiness why not take the risk hehe

Answer 2

To me life has allways come in stages.when I was young I thought I was all that and then some, in my 20,s, I was married,but not happy and well not a nice person,selfish really,it was all about me. in my 30,s I got nice and started to think of others...a little more.but I allways looked to others to entertain me It,s like you just can,t sit still,whats in the future??and yes I stepped out on my first husband,because I thought there had to be better out there,instead of working with what I had and trying to build a life.I still thought someone else could build it for me.well I,m 46 now and as happy as a person can probley get,why? because I woke up,it,s not about me,I stopped and looked at people and I mean really looked at their feelings and who they are,and that life is what you make it,not what someone else can give you,I,m married again ,2 boys a grandson,a home.I find things to do that make me happy.and also what makes my family happy.I guess in other words,don,t be so selfish,look around you,there is a lot worse off than you.and work with what you got,you don,t like it then move on. only you can find your own happiness.no one can give you that.

Answer 3

Get and read the book, Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert. You will get a lot of insight from this wonderful author.

Answer 4

try the links ,I truly hope they can help, I live by my rules
Rule ! Start out like yourself get to know yourself
No.2 Have respect for yourself and outhers .
NO3 Get rid of mental baggage get your head on right
stay away from drugs and Alcohol its not a good thing.
Just Click The Links and when you read whats there ,read into them ,see more than what it says
http://www.quotegarden.com/self-discovery.html
This next one is a keeper,please read it a couple of times over.
http://www.wikihow.com/Find-Yourself
ROUND 3
http://www.tomorrowsedge.net/finding-yourself.html
Maby one day you will say to yourself { O, I get it }
Life Is To Short , O ya Its Your life ,Work on Making It Better..
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Answer 5

When we live for our own happiness, we will always fail for living for our own happiness moves us toward self and true happiness always moves us toward our beloved.

Love is not just a feeling, it is a unique state of being where the boundaries of self and beloved become indistinct. I think God created us to first love Him and then love others through Him.

"our hearts are restless until they find their rest in thee, O Lord" (Augustine). Our purpose is to seek God, to allow God to reveal Himself to us, to experience God and to find our joy in Him.

Answer 6

your true purpose in your life is to discover yourself and your essence in this world..you could search happiness if you had been through lot of experiences which gave you a lot of lessons that can be shared to other people..being happy is not having everything...we could discover ourselves through the bad experiences that we're passing through..

Answer 7

Go see a counsellor.. or read Intimacy by Osho

Answer 8

don't focus as much on yourself
instead reach out to others who have it much worse than you do

do volunteer work

Answer 9

Treat people nice, and love will happen...