My 16 year old daughter is pregnant. She's decided to keep it, too. I believe she's really thrown her life away. She told her boyfriend first and her mother second. Her mother beat her and almost caused a miscarriage (don't worry, she's with me now). She has frontal lobe dysfunction, meaning when she does something wrong, she doesn't know it's wrong until after she's corrected or something of that nature. So she probably walked into the house going, "Hey mom, guess what? I'm pregnant.", not knowing that being pregnant was wrong until after she was beaten. I'd feel terrible if I yelled at her after what happened, but how do I show her I'm disappointed without hurting her too badly?
2007-12-25 09:34:57 · 19 answers · asked by Jacoby M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
If she has so little cognitive ability that she doesn't even realize that getting pregnant at her age is a bad idea, then the last thing she needs is a baby. Force her to give this baby up for adoption. As a parent (specifically one of a child with limited function) you have the legal right and moral obligation to do this.
2007-12-25 10:37:11 · answer #1 · answered by missbeans 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I can help you. I am 17 and i have a 9 month old baby. Just because shes pregnant doesn't mean shes throwing her life away. I am graduating in may, I have a job and I take care of my baby. I know I should have waited because it is hard. If you want to tell her your disappointed, That's exactly what you say. But anything you say about it will hurt her. Its a done deal anything you say wont just make it all go away. So my advise is for you to just be there for her and help her through her decision. If you make her give her baby up unwillingly that's not only hurting her its hurting the baby in the long run. She will end up hating you for the rest of her life. This isn't easy for your daughter either.
2007-12-25 10:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by Meagan R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't know something's wrong until she's suffered consequences, it doesn't sound like she'll make a very good mother. My advice is to have her give the baby up for adoption, or eventually CPS will come in and take it from her.
What happens if she leaves the baby alone while she and her boyfriend go to have more sex, and create another baby, the baby falls down the steps, and is permanently damaged or killed? Or what happens if she hits the baby for crying, not knowing it's wrong to hit a week old baby, and causes brain damage?
2007-12-25 11:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This Republican may help her. Her daughter is pregnant and single, yet has chosen to offer the toddler life. that announces alot! She could have chosen to abort a beating coronary heart, yet she did no longer. regrettably, too many young women finally end up in this occasion and then upload greater undesirable options to the 1st. shows that the government being in touch in intercourse training of our little ones isn't working. we've the optimal fee of pregnant childrens interior the industrialized international, partly using fact we've made abortion person-friendly to get (in California, a youngster could nicely be taken for an abortion by skill of a school counselor or nurse, devoid of the mothers and dads permission or notification). comparable toddler won't be able to get a shot devoid of the parent being there. the place is the experience of that.
2016-10-02 08:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by edgmon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and talk to her....I think you should really persuade her to give her baby up for adoption...because it scares me that she has this condition. Itreally concerns me for the safety of the child and since she's 16, you can override her decision on keeping the baby, legally, if you honestly think thats what's best. I know you don't want to do that....And i don't really understand the extent of her condition...like ...what all does she not know is wrong? Will she be able to know shaking a baby to make it be quiet is wrong? Yelling at a baby is wrong?? You have to ask yourself this and figure out what is safest for the baby....
And not that you are ...but just incase...if you are thinking about abortion for her...it causes way tooo much emotional stress for someone this young.....it's not our decision to decide whether a life should be given the potential to live or not...thats not fair. ...sorry , just had to throw that in there.
but anyway...back to ur question, sit her down and tell her what she did was wrong, and should be saved for marriage...
Explain to her the REASONS why it shouldnt be done before marriage (financial stability and maturity level are not strong enough, emotional stress, etc.) I know when i was her age, if my mom told me not to do something.....she NEVER gave me legitamite reasons not to.....so i did most of them just our of rebellion. If she would have explained the reasons why not...like it's not fair to the baby if one were to be conceived....ect.....i might have listened a little more.
explain to her that now she has a big decision to make....and the consequences...good and bad....of either decision.
i really hope this helps....im not very good with words. sorry
2007-12-25 09:55:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jada and Ty's mommy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does Mickey Mouse wear a glove? Ever hear of that expression?! Just kidding! Back to my answer-DO NOT YELL! If you are not to angry that she had s** at that age tell her that you are dissapointed in her but you really don't want this to be a family fight. Tell her that her mother has gone a bit too over board but you are very upset, too. If she's sure she's not dropping the baby, tell her that you are not taking care of the baby for the rest of your life because you didn't have the s** at 16! She said she isn't dropping it so that makes it her responsibility! Email me because I know lots about this! Luckycharm1558@yahoo.com!Thanks!
2007-12-25 09:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you're disappointed in her. Tell her that everything will be fine. Tell her that you'll keep the baby under one condition, she'll go to high school and finish college. Dont yell at her. Talk to her in a tone that lets her know that you're disappointed. Have you talked to her about how hard it is to raise a baby? Best of luck!!
2007-12-25 10:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe the best choice would be for her to place the child up for adoption. if she doesnt know right from wrong (which isnt her fault) how can she raise a child? even with your help and it doesnt sound like u are too interested in raising a grandchild. get her on birth control after she has the baby so this doesnt happen again. good luck
2007-12-25 11:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one.
If you really respect her, than you got to tell her the truth no matter how much it hurts, but it will be less hurtfull if there's no loud voices involved.
And don't be afraid to answer questions with a "why", like "Why are you feeling like that?" and stuff like that.
You have to keep in mind about her dysfunction.
And she can be too confuse either.
2007-12-25 12:36:58 · answer #9 · answered by strikernofear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why show her you are disappointed? whats done is done...who is going to raise the baby? will she be able to continue school? what happened to the boyfriend, has her mother been arrested for beating her? you have way more problems than showing your daughter you are disappointed, you need some counseling for her and you...get it quick...sometimes adoption is the best answer
2007-12-25 10:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋