Hi ladies, I have been married for 1yr now and i been with my wife for 3yrs,She is 16weeks pregnant,i dont want her to work till she have the baby,but she cant stay home alone,she is overly attached with me,if i tell her i have to go out for work purposes for few hrs she will start crying and keep asking me when will you be back? how many hrs? and it just hurt me seeing her like this.i hired a manager for my business so i can be with her all the time, even if i am home with her she will not let go of me,she will fall asleep on me,She have a history of depression and postpartum depression, she didnt have a good childhood,nor got alot of love or affection from her family,she is scared from the pictures on the wall,she is terrified from the dark,she is only 24, i dont know what should i do, should i take her to see a doctor, is their any medication for her obesession? can she ever be normal?
Your suggestions will be appericiated. Thanks
2007-12-25 09:16:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
yes she have a 4yr old son, who is living in london with my wife's grandparents.
2007-12-25 09:30:44 · update #1
If your wife is afraid of pictures on the wall, she has serious mental illness. Get to a doctor NOW. If you do, there is a good chance they will figure out the right combination of drugs and therapy to give her a good quality of life. If you don't, your child will have even a worse childhood than she did!
You say she had postpartum depression. Does this mean you have other children who must live with this insanity? Please, get help for her before they become ill as well!
2007-12-25 09:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kacky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being scared of the dark. I am. I have always been terrified of it. I don't know why but it's just the way I am and it's not a big deal. And I know how it is to always want to be with your hubby. I want to be with mine all the time but I cant because he's a Marine so he is gone for long hours. She is just very dependent on you and yeah you might want to break that habit but tell her how you feel and keep in mind, she is pregnant, so her hormones are through the wall.
2007-12-25 19:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Livin'Life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's pretty tough to deal with. The answer that i could suggest is she needs to get help! those problems are not something that you can deal with as a loving husband; she needs a trained proffessional to help her to deal with her past, and the issuses she is having. I would try to get her to go to a therapist or a phychologist it would really be in the her best intrest for her and for the childs sake. It wouldn't be good for the baby to grow up and see her like that because there are chances it could effect the childs well being if their mom is sick. I wish you both the best. and hope it all works out.
2007-12-25 09:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by butafly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a caring husband to be actively seeking help for the woman he loves! Your wife can be "normal", she just needs to seek medical help. She probably could benefit from medicine and especially from the advice of some trained in this matter. You are brave for doing what you can to counteract her behavior, stay positive, and seek help from a professional.
2007-12-25 09:32:07 · answer #4 · answered by swh429 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a reason for her feelin this way.You can't be with her all the time or it will start to affect your relationship.Everyone need some space.I think that she needs profesional help.Suggest that the two of you go together,maybe this will help her to feel more at ease.Good Luck!
2007-12-25 09:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should take her to a doctor, yes, yes...She will probably have a pre-natal appointment soon, right? You and your wife could start there, tell the OB how your wife is feeling. Poor thing, she needs to live her life and enjoy herself.
Good Luck, Merry Christmas!
2007-12-25 09:28:59 · answer #6 · answered by Rebekah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get her to talk to her obgyn about this, and if she wont, then pull her doc to the side and you talk to him. She will naturally be clingy, I was with my husband, but not to that extent. Just try your best to make her secure and feel loved. Shes got alot going on right now and needs you.
2007-12-25 11:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by Rosie H. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh you poor love both of you,i got 3 kids im preg with 4th i have had experience with dep and anxiety,i just lost my mum to cancer in june and alot of bad things have happened to me and hubbie.i think you both need help i know my hubbie was probably in the same boat as you ,listen if you personally want to email us your more than welcome,give big hugs to you both
2007-12-25 12:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs a therapist. Also, talk with her OB about her symptoms. He/she can recommend some treatment options.
2007-12-25 09:25:22 · answer #9 · answered by Mikki Sue71 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋