of the week you'd save not waiting 'till New Year's to resolve to forgive them...eh?
2007-12-25 08:34:09 · 19 answers · asked by Monsieur Recital Vinyliste 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Good Q. Star for you :)
Well, #1 has to be me for judging me so harshly this week, and even last night as I was part of the worship service at church. I just could only find something wrong with my hair, my clothes, what I said and did. It was very hard to accept compliments.
I also can't forgive anyone else if I'm dumping on myself.
Thanks for the Q. Most appropriate.
By the way - I don't do resolutions I make New Year Plans, for the first three months, then the half year and then the rest of the year. So it is a good plan to clean my 'mental' house ahead of that.
Thanks again.
2007-12-25 08:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so right!!
I have forgiven after many years. The most amazing feeling is that acceptance. When you think of the event and it has no effect anymore, I didn't believe it was possible before I had guidance. Now the forgiveness is instant, asking for forgiveness is as well.
I still have to achieve the wisdom to forgive myself, but everyone else is safe.
2007-12-25 19:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we need worry to much about forgiving people we are all as guilty of stuff as anyone, well some more than others.... So I won't go begging for forgiveness as anything that I have done is done, and cannot be undone. My conscience feels guilt about a few issues and I have torn myself apart enough times over these so I have grown stronger for accepting my mistakes forgiving others is more than I can deal with to be honest. Those who have caused me harm are probably unaware of the real harm they caused me so it would be futile and I don't have to see them or deal with them anymore, anyhow. And life moves on regardless.
2007-12-25 17:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the person who needs my forgiveness most is myself. I sometimes beat myself up over very trivial things. I have others who need my forgiveness and they are all important, however, I don't know them as well as I do myself. And, if I offend anyone, I will be quick to forgive me. It's a good theological thing to do.
2007-12-25 16:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by Armchair Nutritionist 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness should come immediately after any sort of issue or dispute. Right at this moment, I forgive you for posting this question! eh!! <3
2007-12-25 18:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by crystallamp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a 'forgive list' I tend to bear grudges, I can't help it, if someone has done/said something that really upset me it sticks in my mind like superglue and won't go away. Never mind, a bit of hate is healthy
2007-12-25 17:10:16 · answer #6 · answered by LONDONER © 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...a tie between myself and the rest of my family. I want to forgive, but how do you forgive someone who feels no remorse or regret for what they did? THAT is what I am trying to figure out...
2007-12-25 16:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is noble and a wonderful goal. But even Jesus had righteous anger.
Emotional and psychological abuse of a child is something that I find unforgivable.
2007-12-25 16:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by wendy c 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I admit I bear maybe one or two long-time grudges towards people I no longer associate with nor every really think about anymore. Which pretty much renders your question moot.
2007-12-25 21:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother--who stole my identity, wrecked my marriage and did various other things that "lowered my standard of living." I can probably forgive him, but I can never again trust him.
2007-12-25 16:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by alell23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋