While he was unpacking I seen pictures of his ex that he has had tucked away.. I was upset because I feel as if he has not completely gotten over her... I know there is nothing between them nor do they talk and if they do its a few sentences that they may send online to one another. I have gotten rid of all my old memories cause I didn't feel a need to bring them into my new house with my new marriage...Should I have him get rid of the pictures or would you say its OK for him to keep them. Personally, I think he has not gotten over this chick...
2007-12-25 08:13:07 · 7 answers · asked by The'Truth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its 50/50 on one hand i can understand that his ex was apart of his life, but on the other hand i cant see why he would want 2 keep pics of her.... its about how u feel though darling & if ur not comfortable with him having pics of his ex then let him no how u feel..... good luck & happy holidays!
2007-12-25 08:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he is sentimental and wishes to keep some memories packed away from that era in his life, so he can reflect on his life when it is nearing the end. That might not be about whether or not he's over her.
I have packed away a couple pics of my ex wife in the same way. The marriage is wayyy over, and I am over her, but I want to have something to remember her by in 40-50 years when I look back over my life.
I'd recommend talking with him about this, in an understanding manner.
2007-12-25 08:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by lmspencr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The past is the past and having mementos from those times is fine. I have photographs and I never look at them and I am not hung up on any one. Why would you think that he has not gotten over her? Having a picture does not say that. I would leave it be unless there are other reasons for you to feel this way.
2007-12-25 09:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine for him to keep them. I've divorced and remarried and kept the wedding pictures from the first marriage. I'm totally over him but don't see the need to trash these pictures. My husband knows I have these and doesn't seem to care. The only thing that is strange is that he's hiding them from you. Did he know you would react this way?
2007-12-25 08:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by feline_farmer1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be curious to where he would have placed them had he been the one that unpacked them. That might have told you more about his feelings towards her. If you know he is still talking to her online sometimes, is he also talking to her on the phone or texting her? Be nosy.
2007-12-25 08:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by jeff b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to reinstall your old memories. Having a new husband is no reason toforget yyour previuos life unless it was really unpleasant.
Fact is many men are like that.
2007-12-25 08:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes tell him itz a new life n a new house n u want thin 2 b gr8 b/w u guys n that means honesty
2007-12-25 08:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by love_d_trini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋