2007-12-25 08:05:10 · 16 answers · asked by April 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The past should stay in the past no matter what. Who cares what the other person did before the two of you were married?My husband has told me things that I have wished many times that I did not know about and I did not ask him. He started telling me things about his flings right after we were married and I still have problems dealing with it. I have felt like leaving him many times. I sometimes get jealous when I hear about the other women. I say nothing about my past life and that is where it stays.
2007-12-25 08:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you asked me 19 years ago, I definitely would have agreed with the majority of people answering this question. However, had I known then, what I know now? Hell yeah, he was a serial cheater at the age of 16, he's nearly 38 and nothing changed.
Oh yes, obviously if he's a serial killer, thief or is wanted for murder or makes the FBI's Most Wanted.
2007-12-25 17:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, bring old past to confront the present will only create more problems or add more fuel to the heat of an arguments. My wife loved to use my past to justify her arguments. This in return infuriate me more. Let the past go.
2007-12-25 16:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by 1-Confused-man 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, dwelling on past mistakes and keeping them alive doesn't do anything but make a person sad, but dwelling on the good times you had doesn't hurt. It is according to what things in the past you are talking about.
2007-12-25 18:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is past relationships, then absolutely. If it is a past that occurred with your current partner, then not necessarily. It is so much easier said than done to leave things in the past. If you wronged your partner, they may have a more difficult time getting over it.
2007-12-25 16:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by SWEETYPI 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it should stay in the past. There is no point bringing up things that have happened with past lovers. No need to spill everything to your spouse. There is no reason for him or her to know what happened in your life before you met him (or her). If so, you are only trying to unburden yourself and you will hurt the other person in the process. And possibly ruin the new relationship.
2007-12-25 16:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes the past does not exist anymore it's time to move on with life and be the best you can !
2007-12-25 16:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes!!!! Be advised, that the past is a good predictor of how someone will handle the future.
2007-12-25 17:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by crazyladyandfuntimes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're asking if you should confess past sex partners, the answer is NO!
Do not admit to anything. It will only make matters worse. Secrets are meant to be kept.
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2007-12-25 16:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by jeff b 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ideally perhaps, but a track record is a track record after all, and does indicate whether or not a person can be trusted (for instance, I would not date someone who is known to be a cheater).
2007-12-25 16:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by lmspencr 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋