My family is all Christian, I am not. However I have always done Christmas with them, as it is a time for family, tradition and all of that. This year, we have moved to Colorado and we have set up to not have any family and I was feeling lonely. It turns out my brother (who lives in Colorado Springs - and I am in Denver) IS going to be home on Christmas - as is my sister from California. She, her fiance, and her boys were invited to my brothers and we weren't.
I tried to call them to let them know that we would be happy to come down, but they didn't really invite us and said they would call back. I haven't heard from them - so I guess we aren't invited. I was really hoping to see them.
Now I feel down and left out :(
*sigh*
I figured even if we didn't go down today - my sister will be there all week. But now I don't even think they want me to come. If they did, they would have invited me, right?
2007-12-25 07:59:23 · 6 answers · asked by Willalee 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
I feel weird about calling again - like I am intruding or something. :(
2007-12-25 08:15:10 · update #1
I hate to get in the middle of a family argument, nor do I wish to find excuses for their behavior. It may or may not be just an oversight on their part, and maybe they expect you to come, even without a formal invitation. People do get busy and distracted with holiday preparations. Maybe you should give them at least another call, saying you'd like to know so you could make other plans in case they aren't expecting you. At least it's a subtle way of letting them off the hook in case they just happened to overlook calling you back. Chances are they'll tell you to come on down and join the festivities. Families shouldn't have to stand on ceremony, but you'd be surprised how many of them do, and how many hurt feelings are the result. This is a case of Mohammed going to the mountain, instead of vice-versa. If you really want to be with your family, I can't blame you at all. But in this instance, you just may have to rattle their cage at least one more time. Good luck!
2007-12-25 08:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am feeling kind of the same way. The only thing is my family are only five minutes away and everyone is over there having a good time except me and my kids. And no you shouldn't have to ask if they invited everyone else you should of received a invitation to. This happens to me all the time though not just at Christmas. They are the only family I got and they know that and that makes it suck even more. But my advice is not to let it get you down to much. After all it is Christmas.
2007-12-25 16:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by nita H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go if you'll be comfortable with the way they celebrate or go tomorrow if you would rather not see Christmas celebrated or be a part of the family's gathering for their traditions.
I enjoy seeing family and I feel left out because I am not able to be with them this Christmas. Enjoying the day with pets.
2007-12-25 16:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you actually gone down there?
It's Christmas season, everyone is reallt busy and frantic.
Lots of people have even bought out everything in the convenience stores because they didn't more things from the grocery stores because what they bought yesteday and several days before just wasn't even enough.
2007-12-25 19:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask anyone why you weren't invited? If you don't ask, you won't know.
2007-12-25 16:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by Danagasta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
left out, no.but they say im in left field some times.
2007-12-25 16:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by vintagemale1951 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋