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Question

I am 27 years old, married to the best man, but I've had 2 miscarriages, 1st was 4 years ago, 2nd was last April,
The doctors called it a fluke, and say there is no reason that I cannot have a perfectly healthy child, and this kinda thing happens and is common. They have really took a toll on me emotionally, I am so afraid of pregnancy, yet I want a child so badly, My husband is 37 and I want to have a child pretty soon, I guess what I'm looking for is inspiration from all of you...I need prayers, and I need friends to give me some advice or maybe just some reassuring words that I can do this and that everything will turn out wonderfully!
I cannot wait to hear from you.....
Thank you for your time........from a woman to another woman!
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!!!
God Bless!

Answer 1

Merry Christmas to you . It took me four years to get pregnant after I got married. I was going crazy . One day I just gave up and stopped thinking about it and went on day after another. Month after another. Suddenly I was pregnant one after another. Within 5 years I got 4 daughters. I couldn't stop being pregnant the easy ways. I had to have things removed.
Dear, just don't think or fear of being pregnant and it will happen. God has a plan for all of us ..Just on time, it will all fall in place. Best wishes:)

Answer 2

I really went through the same thing. I had 4 miscarriages and was told that we would never have children.

I have 2 boys now that are 2 1/2 years apart. We got pregnant right after we started looking into adoption.

There is no reason that you wouldn't be able to carry a child to term. Usually a fetus self-aborts if there is something wrong genetically.

If you are trying to conceive, try the ovulation tests to find the best days. Use caution if you think that you might be pregnant, don't lift anything really heavy, try not to fall down stairs, you know... just be careful.

Being a parent is a great blessing, it is also a great responsiblity. It will come in time.

If you are concerned about your ability to conceive, you could always try Clomid - it's a mild fertility drug that has only a very small chance of producing multiples. It has been proven to be very effective.

You should also look into online support groups for couples who are trying to conceive. I practically became family with some of the women that I chatted with online when I was trying to get pregnant.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Don't worry so much. You are still young and the age for child bearing for women is up to 45 or for rare cases even older. There is a saying "Try and try till you succeed" So prolong your honeymoon and make a baby till you succeed. When I was newly married I had 2 or more miscarriages one after the other . And after 7 months of waiting did I conceived again. It then was two years after that I had my second baby. And my last baby was 14 years after my second baby. So we can never tell when we are fertile. Do you travel a lot or move around all the time. Have plenty of rest when you miss your period. I had my misscarriages when I was travelling all the time and did not know I was pregnant and everytime I was bleeding profusely. At first I thought it was just my period since I am irregular. But after not getting pregnant and my mother in law was always asking me why I didn't get pregnant did I see a doctor. So when finally I was pregnant I was advised by my doctor to stay in bed from my 5 th month till I delivered my baby. I was also injected some medicines to hold the baby because my uterus was low..I think we have to sacrifice sometimes to get what we want. Good luck !

Answer 4

I too had a m/c four years ago soon to be five years. And yes after having m/c's you can have healthy children. I have two now. My sister in law also had two m/c and then got pg again and had my neice. Then she got pg shortly after and had another m/c. Then she got pg AGAIN.... and had another daughter just 8 wks before my youngest was born.

I will send my prayers your way that soon you will be able to carry a viable pregnancy. Some place to also go to get many GREAT women's support is baby zone. Under community they have message boards with many many boards from the pregnancy loss boards to Trying to conceive, Due date clubs, and Birthday clubs, natural birthing, and breastfeeding. I really really enjoy them and the women are great. www.babyzone.com

Answer 5

I'm sorry to hear of your losses, miscarriage runs in my family too, my grandmother had 3, but then she went on to have 7 perfectly healthy children, two of my aunts also went through this but they now also have children they love and care for, be strong, you can do it, don't be afraid, it will all be worth it! Merry Christmas, i really hope you get what you want!

Answer 6

I've had 3 miscarriages and a son, and I'm about halfway through a pregnancy with my second child.

Do you chart? I found out through charting that my progesterone levels were low. I was prescribed some progesterone with this pregnancy and so far so good. I don't know if it was the progesterone or luck, but I'll take it.

Answer 7

Mamma Carrie,

Take a deep breath and relax. Has your Dr ever mentioned an incomeptent cervix? Sometime the cervix needs a stitch after conception so that it does not dilate and cause miscarriage.
Good Luck.

Answer 8

My sister miscarried 3 times, for no apparent reason. It was hard on them too. Doctors couldn't find any reason for it. But she conceived almost right after the last one and had a boy, then two years later a girl (she's on birth control now, they only wanted 2).

It's possible for you yet. Keep trying.

Answer 9

ok well first off sorry to hear about the poor miscarriges

and well just try again and maybe switch doctors theres measures to take while being on highrisk pregnancy

u are what some doctors call a highrisk pregnancy

just talk to them and best of wishes to you

Answer 10

Miscarriages are common, but you can still have a healthy baby. My stepsister had 2 miscarriages, then 2 boys, then another miscarriage! (She's trying for a third)