...get married? I realize it depends on when each person is ready but what would you say is too early? I ask because I have 3 friends that all recently just got engaged. They are all right out of high school and I know for a fact that two of them were only dating the guys they plan to marry for 4-6 months (max.). I personally feel they are making big mistakes taking such a big step so soon in a relationship but realize it is their choice to do so. Any way, I am just wondering what do you think is the earliest a couple should consider getting married? :)
2007-12-25 07:27:04 · 15 answers · asked by . 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Haha, yeah I think it's pretty crazy. I've been dating my boyfriend for over 3 years and we have both talked about marriage but even we decided not for another 2-4 years when we can really support that lifestyle. (I'm only 18, much too young for marriage in my opinion)
2007-12-25 07:35:05 · update #1
Thanks Dr. D, that is me. lol I will be supportive of them. They are not really close friends but I just hate knowing where the relationships are probably headed getting engaged so soon.
2007-12-25 07:39:26 · update #2
There is never a right age or set of circumstances, I think almost any two people with basic similarities and attraction to one another could get married and have a good life/marriage. Marriage is about working through the problems and issues of life together and as long as you keep fighting and working through life/issues and compromising things will be good.
It's only when people give up that divorce happens. Most of the divorces today are for stupid reasons and people just can't be accountable, responsible, and commit to someone for life anymore and It's sad!
I'm looking for Romeo and Juilet type love, thick and thin, better or worse, richer or poorer till death! Most say that but don't mean it, If you really mean it then do it , if not, just have a bunch of relationships like everyone else dose so you can run when your not happy or comfortable or don't feel like putting in the work!
Marriage is a choice, not a feeling, your not going to always feel like your floating in the clouds but you choose to do what you said you would.
2007-12-25 07:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For one.. I love you avatar, if that is your picture, your beautiful...
Anyways, I dont think there is a set time before you get married. I think that the more time you take before you get married you get a chance to learn more about the person, and see if this person is right for you. However, I have seen people have a long loving relationship after being with someone for abour 3 months..
It all depends on the person, and you should just be there as a friend... support them and be by their side if things go wrong..
good luck.
-D
2007-12-25 07:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by -Dr. D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends, but I would say that it should be a least a year of dating before marriage comes into the picture. First few months, everyone has their image of each other, that hasn't be 'revised for actuality' yet. lol
I was 20 and had been dating the guy for about 2 years before we got married.
I know someone who got married only a month or two of meeting a guy.....that kind of 'rush' worries me. She's already been divorced once, you'd think she would've learned! She's only 23, and already in her 2nd marriage.
2007-12-25 08:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of it depends on how old you are and how many relationships you have been in. If you have been in several relationships, it is much easier to realize how good a person is for you and to compare them to others you have been with. Also, as you get older, you grow to know the things you are going to want in a partner. At eighteen, your wants and desires are much different than at thirty. But in any case, I think three to five years should be the norm. What is the rush anyway?
2007-12-25 07:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by anastasiamarianne99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it depends how much time theyve spent together and how well they know eachother, they should also make sure that theyre not getting engaged to try and keep the relationship going. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly three yrs and we recently moved in together and NOW we're begining to plan our lives together and weddings but most people who get married too early end up splitting up quicker as well because they later realize that they don't really know eachother as well as they thought they did, I'd say to wait at least a year, that way, you know the person's living conditions and their true personalities.
2007-12-25 07:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by Rameesa M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they should wait until they know who they are independent of a relationship, are able to support themselves, can afford marriage and kids and are happy on their own. I totally agree with you. The divorce rate for the 18-25 age set is astronomical. Go to school, get a life and then you will be someone who can truly enjoy a real partnership as an adult. They are nuts.
2007-12-25 07:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me, I think it would be a minimum of a year before you get married. That way you have the opportunity to really get to know someone. You're usually still wearing the rose colored glasses in the first 4-6 months of a relationship and the year gives you time to lose the glasses and relax and be yourselves.
2007-12-25 07:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least date two years with no breaking up and don't be only 18 years old.
2007-12-25 07:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Sassie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say at least 3 years of living together, and/or reaching the age of 30-35, so as to be sure both are done growing....
2007-12-25 08:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by lmspencr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 yrs dating, 3 knowing some one.
2007-12-25 12:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by ab dominance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋