it's christmas, i'm depressed and don't know what to do. :(?

Question

for the past few months i've just been really down..i don't really eat anymore, i sleep all the time, i don't enjoy doing the things i used to. i cry all the time over absolutely EVERYTHING...i'm only 18 but i just feel like the entire world is against me. i have a great boyfriend who's always there for me but even he can't do much.

basically this whole year has kinda sucked..i've lost a lot friendships that i thought were genuine but a lot of people are shady and two faced, so whats new. i don't know what i should do. i don't know where to get help or even how to...i don't want to tell my parents because my mom lives in scotland of all places, she can't do much, and my dad is literally useless..he doesn't care about me that much. i feel worthless all the time and i've had thoughts of suicide, which scares me because i'm so against that. if you're going to be rude about this then really, don't answer. anyway, i'm NOT looking for pity, it's just that i don't know what to do..

Answer 1

The cure here is to look within yourself. Just remember that even though alot of your friends were 2 faced you stayed true to yourself, so that makes u special in a world where people are continually betraying others.

You also have a bf thats always there for you so u allready have what most women are craving for these days: Love.

If you really want to feel great about urself this holiday, go out and seek some homeless people, see how they are living and BUY THEM A MEAL, i guarantee your depression will go away when u see the smile that you put on their faces.

Before the homeless were moved from the area closest to me, i used to round up all my younger teen friends and fill my suv with snacks and food and drinks and we used to spend christmas and other holidays with the homeless passing out food. I swear to you we never had a greater time in our life.
Those people are so special and they taught me that what u need first in life is to care for others.

Do this and i guarantee you will see life from another point of view and your depression will vanish very quickly:), also communication about your problems with your boyfriend always helps.

You can always take your boyfriend with you when passing out food to the homeless;).

Answer 2

Pity is not an option but empathy is. Maybe you can benefit from a perspective adjustment of sorts. You lost some friendships that you thought were genuine only to discover that those people are "two-faced" and not what they represented themselves to be. But you learned this and it didn't cost you very much in the way of time or damage....and frankly, you're well rid of them. (The situation could easily have been far worse and the problems they caused more pronounced.) Now, do you really feel "worthless" or do you feel profoundly let down? (One response is consistent with what has transpired; the other is not. Guess which is which?)
Let's take a quick look into the "plus" column to see what's up: You have a terrific boyfriend who is available to you, attentive, and supportive. (Who can ask for more than that, right?) And you have your health, your wits, and (more importantly) you have your life...and as long as you have life you will always have hope. You have a deepened wisdom into that enigmatic spectacle called "human nature"; a lesson forged in the fires of personal experience. Yeah, the lesson stung a little bit, but it was a lesson well-learned. You never have to re-learn that again (just like you don't accidentally forget and place your hand on a hot stove...the message stuck.)
Sadness is never pleasant but sometimes it can be a strong motivator...it motivates you to change things that can be changed, or learn to ignore things that cannot be changed. This is a fertile training ground for developing coping skills, and no matter how temporarily unpleasant this is for you, it sounds like you're doing just fine. Cry when you need to cry (it's a healthy expression of intense emotions), but every so often look up and see all the wonderful things that are around you, too...I know they're there, because they're everywhere. (We won't even discuss the "suicide" comment because I know you didn't mean it.) Merry Christmas....there's still plenty of day left; salvage some happiness!

Answer 3

Almost everyone goes through some level of depression during their teen years. Mines was from sophomore to the end of my junior year. I didn't have any deep relationships with anyone, so I was on my own, and that's probably why it lasted so long. But I think my turning point is when I took up activities that are beyond my everyday school life.

Maybe have a New Year's resolution where you vow to do some volunteer activities or community service. Maybe even take up a workout routine, like jogging or swimming regularly.

These may seem unconventional, but I think it gets your mind off of your hectic personal life, and be able to focus more on yourself (volunteer work benefits the community yes, but it also helps yourself feel better about yourself; whether its the satisfaction of doing good, or making a difference).

Answer 4

Thank god I'm not the only one who has spent most the time depressed and crying!

I tend to go through stages when I'm happy and when I'm not. There is usually a cetain situation/problem that is the start of my depressive mode and then it kinda spirals out of control until I am unhappy with EVERYTHING.

You need to pin-point that particualr thing and solve it before you can sort out the rest of your life. Think about what you want to achieve this year and out of life as a whole and start to work on that. You'll soon find things arent so bad!

After my boyfirends death i has often comtemplated suicide but when i think about all the pain i have gone through over his death i can honestly say that this is NOT the way to go. Think about how your boyfriend, family and the people who love you would feel if you did that.

Life can be **** at times but you gotta pull through it coz you never know what fun lies ahead! xxx

Answer 5

Dear person, you at the height of hormonal stress & you
are not physically contributing to your body by not eating,try
eating a little of something nice then something good for you
frequently then you might have more energy to think more clearly & not feel so lethargic , by the way Scotland is a very
beautiful country full of beautiful people

Answer 6

Life is hard and you are only young with alot to look forward too. Go to the doctors firstly tell them exactly how u feel . i had depression last year it was awful but i had counselling and it really helped just try stay strong

Answer 7

i know what u mean i have been going through the same thing lately but for the past 2 days i have been doing the stuff i used to do and loved and it cheered me up a little so mabey if you started doing the stuff you love again it might cheer you up

merry xmas
xoxoxo

Answer 8

i suggest you read what you just wrote. you focus a lot on what you hate about life. think more of the things you WANT. not those you dont want. thought shifting could really help you. also, pray for guidance. God is always there to listen ok? you'll be fine.

Answer 9

Does your school have a counselor? Go to see him/her. Let your fingers do the walking the yellow pages. Social Workers are listed and can help you. You need to talk to someone. Good luck.

Answer 10

You have to go to your doctor who will probably prescribe some anti-depressants and send you to a psychologist or counselor. Don't be afraid of going - you really need to and you will be surprised how much it helps! Good luck.