2007-12-25 07:12:55 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have been searching for this answer all my life, and have yet to discern properly whether someone is truly interested in me, or if they are feigning interest in order to use me. I know that everyone loves you when you're "up," but who is there for you when you are in emotional Hell? That is one test. Do they really listen? Do they do things to try to make you happy, or do they just want your presence for the entertainment value? Do they care for you when you are sick? If they are busy, and you really need them, do they take time for you?
I have found one or two people like that in my life, excluding family. Good Luck.
2007-12-25 10:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by La Belle Dame Sans Merci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To some extent everyone is worth your time. There are no worthless people. But I know what you mean. Observe how they interact with other people and with their family. See if they exhibit the qualities you are looking for. See if they're kind and if they care about you or if you share interests, Remember, they won't want to spend time with you if you aren't kind and interested in them. Good friendships and relationships work both ways.
2007-12-25 07:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by Vega 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to determine that. you may like a person a lot and spend your time with them but they may not feel the same way. They maybe just using you, or feel not as much for you as you do for them. I think this is what people go through after they have been hurt on a deep level. Peopel As you mentioned before, people push others away becasue of a fear of getting hurt.
Mark
Now on to the next question i feel i can answer.
2007-12-28 01:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by mark533789 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who and what. For my family I make time. Ofcourse it shouldn't be a one way traffic in general.
I personally think that ppl who have the same goals, have the same interests, striving for the best and think positive to become a better person to create a better society are worth my time.
2007-12-25 07:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by spotty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gut instinct. That's always been my way. I learn about the person, study them, study what they say in comparison to their actions, and let myself decide. Now, I'm not right all the time, but I'm never wrong either. Like I might think the person is completely no good, but in reality he or she just has a couple of secrets.
Hope that helps.
2007-12-26 01:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by Twili 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the way they are with you , on how much they care, or give you the time of day. A true friend/person who is real will be determined on how they are with you and if they are truly worth your time and life...
2007-12-25 07:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by ruby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only Time tells............
It took me a while to recognize this in people. Overall I think , time tells. Not only that but people do change. I do not know how old you are, but if you are young, most young people change as they mature.
I think once people are older, you can determine how they really are.
I would suggest to stay away from any toxic behaivors....basically anyone who breaks you down and no build you up. You can look up those types of personality.
2007-12-25 07:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by It's about the Spirit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The people who make you feel miserable are not worth your time. The people who genuinely put a smile on your face are worth your time.
2007-12-25 13:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by dddddddOT! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the amount of interest they show in my problems and whether they take the time to enquire as to how I am.
2007-12-25 07:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by LONDONER © 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Manners.
2007-12-25 07:20:27 · answer #10 · answered by Thomas E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋