All the married adults talk to us kids saying "Don't get married!" etc. Several have told me that. So is marriage really that bad?
2007-12-25 06:40:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's because the HAPPILY married people don't feel the need to say anything.
Look around you at the people who DON"T tell you these things...they are the ones doing marriage RIGHT.
Marriage is hard, and it takes work, but there is no other way to feel so secure when its right. Someone who always has your back, to dry your tears, to hold you when you're down, to say the right things when life kicks you....I think marriage is worth it!
2007-12-25 07:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get married for the wrong reasons, they are in a hurry and make the mistake of that forever commitment when they don't even know who they are yet and what they really want out of life......
I believe you should live with a person for at LEAST 3 years, before even getting engaged, but that is just me.....
You don't really know someone until you have spent time together to go through life's ups and downs and live together to know each-others bad habits.
I would strongly recommend spending years getting to know each other,
But Marriage with the right person is a huge blessing!!!
Nothing beats it!
2007-12-25 15:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by Candlelights 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone wants to be in a good relationship, that is loving, stable, and fulfilling. Marriage is one way to make a commitment to work on just that kind of relationship. Trouble is so many people jump into marriage with no idea about what they want, what the other person is really like or what they expect. Marriage is good if you sort all that our before hand, so that both of you are willing to work on the relationship.
2007-12-25 15:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by SkyLights90N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Positive Effects of Marriage: A Book of Charts
by Patrick F. Fagan, Robert E. Rector, Kirk A. Johnson, Ph.D. and America Peterson
(table of contents)
As social science research data and government surveys increasingly show, the decline in marriage since the 1960s has been accompanied by a rise in a number of serious social problems. Children born out of wedlock or whose parents divorce are much more likely to experience poverty, abuse, and behavioral and emotional problems, have lower academic achievement, and use drugs more often. Single mothers are much more likely to be victims of domestic violence. With the rise in these problems comes high program costs to deal with the effects of the breakdown of marriage.
For children whose parents remain married, however, the benefits are real. Adolescents from these families have been found to have better health and are less likely to be depressed, are less likely to repeat a grade in school, and have fewer developmental problems. The implications of such mounting evidence for social policy are immense. Too many welfare programs continue to undermine marriage among the poor and must be reevaluated.
I hope this helps, I did some research to your question, and yes, in my opinion, there are lots of benefits to being married.
Carrie Green
15 years of marriage to the same man, and a beautiful 10 year old daughter!!!!!
2007-12-25 14:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Heck no! Marriage is an absolute bliss if and ONLY if you find the right person for you. There are a ton of terrible marriages out there, but when you find your soul mate it is the best!
I couldn't ask for anything more in this world!
2007-12-25 14:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by kana121569 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love being married. My husband is an awesome, caring person that I can't get enough of. Marriage is not for everyone and should not be gone into lightly. I highly recommend it if you are able to commit fully to another person.
2007-12-25 15:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by pinkyjones32 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with love. most people think that two people can be much happier together not being married to each other than being married. i honestly believe that when i get married to my current boyfriend i will be in a happy marriage because we are head over heels in love with each other :)
2007-12-25 14:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by annawuvzchris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most marriages are bad. But the good ones are great and worth pursuing. It takes work, and lots more. It is a lot like getting a good education.... a lot of work but worth the effort.
2007-12-25 14:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage can simply be a piece of paper with two names on it, or it can be two people holding hands forever
2007-12-25 17:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by I'mrighthere 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage is very hard. it can be wonderful but it takes time and commitment. u really have to work at it but its worth having
2007-12-25 15:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋