I read it in an article (at a doctor's waiting room) .... and it said that women like to make connections with people...but men don't care about connecting they only care about dominating and being in control or in charge...and to them "connecting" would be a weak thing to do.... If that is true....Is it any wonder more than 50% of marriages fail?
2007-12-25 04:06:37 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Wow, this got a lot more answers than I thought it would....
2007-12-25 15:40:12 · update #1
99% of time marriage fails because women don't want to take bull shiit from men any more.
think about it.
before women would stay in the marriage no matter what like even if their husband cheat on them or beat them up the women how stay n the marriage no matter what and from the marriage will stay around for years and for years.
not women simply refuse to be cheat on or abused any more. women are saying no and want their own happiness too, they are just sick and tired of being abuse by men and that's the reason why when the men start behaving bad and he won't change is act wome simply walk out.
if you think about women make the marriage work and now they decided not to get shiit from man any more and that's why marriage fail.
men want to do whatever they want but that's not fair.
2007-12-25 04:20:08 · answer #1 · answered by frenchi 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do you believe everything you read? That is a general statement made from someone else's opinion!
I do not agree with that statement. Everyone wants to make a connection whether or not they are willing to let their guard down to do so is another story. There are many circumstances to take in account when reading this statement and taking it into consideration.
a. How was the person raised? Were they raised to be strong? If male, were they not allowed to cry?
b. What type of emotional circumstances has the person been through in their life? They may have a very strong guard up and use many defenses to block people out of there emotional side (male AND female).
c. Women do tend to be a bit more emotionally driven but this is a generalization...there are many men that are also driven by there emotions.
d. Men may seem to be dominant but again this depends how they were raised and what their background is. Women can display this same trait...so try not to generalize!
Hope this helps.
2007-12-25 12:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by Meme Care 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you consider that we act as animals, YES! If you think that we have finally evolved to be just a bit beyond animals, NO! Listen, I'm a competitive person, and that spills over into many aspects of my life. I don't like losing to even the goals I set for myself, so I may seem a bit domineering. However, I am married and I respect the opinion of my wife. So much so that in certain ares I will trust her judgment over my own. I do reserve the right to make the final decision and when her and I disagree, it seems 1/2 the time I run with her spin on the problem. Not only that but, I take the next step and accept responsibility if it backfires, because that is the way it should be. I understand that not all wives are as wise as mine, and all husbands are not as dense as I. However, it is difficult to label myself as domineering if I see things this way. Yes, I am a warrior for my ideas, so is my wife, that should be the way everyone fights for their ideas. Otherwise you are just sheep. Don't get me wrong, being a follower is a noble career. It's just that I get to pick and choose when and where I follow.
2007-12-25 12:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That may be true in a handful of cases...however, many times women would rather be more connected with family than with outsiders.
I know many men who are very social, and have many more friends than do their spouses.
Let's face it...these days both men and women are working a lot of hours, and not everyone is ready to be out socializing often. People do need some rest and relaxation. This is true of both genders.
2007-12-25 12:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess! It was a woman's magazine, right!
I can't agree with your myopic statement.
If you try to find a man in a biker bar on a Saturday night you'll find a bunch of "manly men" that wear leather, drink beer and ride big bikes with loud pipes.
If you hang out at coffee shops where free Internet and solo musical artists are the attraction you may find a much kinder and gentler type of man.
I think you've jumped to a conclusion and thought only women who agree with you would respond.
I guess I could give you a stereotype to account for the 50% of failed marriages. How about those overbearing Mother-in-laws?
The truth is I don't conform to the stereotypes described above. (I connected with my Mother-in-law quite well.)
Don't give up on men. We are a diverse group as are the women of the world.
2007-12-25 12:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by another voice in the crowd 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure i have enough time [or enough ROOM!] to answer this question adequately here ....
Suffice it to say that in my many years of experience, I have found that although there are SOME men like this (what 50- 60 %) ....... there are also some rare gems out there who are NOT that way (thank heavens ... :). And even though this group may only make up only 20 -30 % of the population, they are sooo WORTH looking for! :)
BTW: The other 10 -20 % are either in nursing homes, or in the "other" category .... :)
xoxoxox
2007-12-25 13:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
They lied to you, women are also only interested in domination. The only difference is in the way the two sex's go about it. Dominance is a biological/genetic imperative and ever last woman that I've interacted with on a personal/intimate bases has tried real hard for it.
2007-12-25 12:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that men who consider "connecting" to be a sign of weakness are afraid of their "feminine side", & insecure in their masculinity. Being an Aquarian puts me right at home w/ my emotional side (w/o being gay). To coin a phrase: "It's my belief pride is the chief cause in the decline of the number of husbands & wives." With men, it's being "macho", & worrying how they look to other men. With women, it's being wary of submission for fear of losing their identity. The scriptures are clear about the roles of each sex. It sounded like the article was only blaming men for the problem.
2007-12-25 15:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually the thorn is'nt advertised it's the rose we all seek , the thorn is a by product . it is something you can read about till you're eyes hert , but untill you feel it it's only a discription ,, we only guess at what the function of the thorn is , and at best we know what it can do , But only the maker knows for sure what makes the thorn tick , anything less is just a guess , but when connecting you don't want to just shove your nose in it . you take your time,, for some reason the prick leaves you looking for a way to do anything but enjoy the aroma..
2007-12-25 12:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that sounds about right. i wouldnt say all men but a great deal are that way. look at what they are in to like sports all thats about is beating the other team down and rubbing it in they face. then its the whole macho deal that men have to go and kill stuff and screw as many women as possible and stuff so yeah id agree with that article
2007-12-25 12:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by manicdetroiter 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋