I go to my hubby's friend's house with my toddler so that he gets to play with his toddler. Mostly, when his wife is at home. But my friend is like putting his hands on my shoulder, or holding my hands or putting his hands on my waist whenever his wife is not in sight. He keeps telling me how stunning I am and how much fun he has when I am around and I that I am so much fun to be with. Then one day, he kissed me on my cheeks when no one was there. (He came to my house coz my son was sleeping and I needed him to carry my bags). I didnt know how to react to this? What is this called? I know him like 5 years and he is never like this at all. Why this change?
2007-12-25 02:48:32 · 19 answers · asked by Sanshine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He and his wife are not having a sexually fulfilling relationship, and it sounds like they need to seek some counseling. You need to not be there when his wife is not there, and he doesn't need to come over to your house when your husband isnt there, that will keep you from putting yourself and him in a compromising situation. You also need to confront him about the touching. Tell him that you don't think that it is appropriate, it makes you feel uncomfortable, and that if it continues that your kids will not be seeing each other any more.
2007-12-25 02:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by JONGERTH 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
He wats to get into your pants plain and simple. Or at the risk of sounding like a conspiracy theorist, you husband doesn't trust you (or maybe him) and wants to see how far you will go, and if you do his friend will say hey man I just slept with your wife.
Just talk to him and ask what's going on and tell him how you feel.
2007-12-25 03:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy likes you, he'll either be really nice, or he'll pretend to dispise you.
Some guys will just click with you, agreeing with what you say (because they agree, not because they want you to think they agree) and generally just making you happy. The other kind will walk around, call you names, pretend you don't exist. But if you get a chance to get one-on-one time with this guy, go for it! He's probably really into you, and will be super nice to you if he gets the chance to be alone with you (away from 'the guys'). Otherwise, just do what your intuition tells you. There really isn't some miracle answer for this.
But, if a guy's lying, his ears/face will get red, and his eyes will get big.
That's about as good as it gets. Good Luck!
2007-12-25 03:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he has taken a fancy to you. Even knowing you for a long time with no previous intrest. He may not be GETTING IT at home and has focused his attentions and intrests on you. The subtlle jestures and touching? He is looking fdor a responce, a green light if you will. Ball is in your court! Carefull how you return it! You may go over the line!
2007-12-25 02:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jack 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he's unhappy at home, and looking for happiness in someone else's home - yours!
You better set some boundaries with this guy before you get into some seriously difficult territory.
If you love your husband, you need to tell this guy you aren't interested in extra curricular activities and don't worry about hurting his feelings - you can't have it both ways.
The man wants into your pants - unless you keep him out, he's going to keep trying to get in.
2007-12-25 02:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by willie pheeler 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's doing this because he wants to have sex with you. React to it however you would react to any other guy who is hitting on you. If you're a sl*t, jump him. If you have a bit of self-respect and honor the vows you took with your husband, tell him to stop or you'll tell his wife and quit bringing your kid around.
2007-12-25 02:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
He maybe going through some mid-life crises. The only problem is they don't see the end result of all this. When your husband finds out and if it goes too far, the kids end up without one of their parents. Be careful!
2007-12-25 02:54:10 · answer #7 · answered by Neil 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him kindly due to the friendship with your husband about his possible perception about your friendship. Friends do not "touch" in a certain way.
2007-12-25 03:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might feel comfortable enough to do tho's things now.
but on the other hand he might be bored with his life
first things first you tell your hubby about it and more importantly his frikin wife if he is doing this **** she should know...we dont want no drama for you and your hubby might even break up with you becasue of it. so be very very very careful...goodluck
2007-12-25 02:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by set me head 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he flirting with you..and flirting with danger...You should nip this in the bud before it really causes problems.....and not worry so much why he is doing this...it is wrong!
2007-12-25 02:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋