I have recently seperated from my husband. I have a 1 year old daughter. My husband was someone who never loved me or his daughhter and just treated me like a doormat. That was the reason I moved out with my daughter. But now inspite of my family support I feel lonely! I have no one to talk to, no one to share my feelings...tell me how do I dispel this loneliness? What do I do? I love my daughter and enjoy my time with her yet I am lonely...
2007-12-25 02:26:46 · 12 answers · asked by pari 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am in the same boat! I have an 18 mo. old daughter, and my husband & I are seperated. If you want Email me, we can talk!
2007-12-25 13:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just answered a question like this yesterday, in fact, let me clip and paste, because it's still true!
Talk, talk, talk, talk, talk! Really, I like to chat a bunch and I find that after a few minutes with someone with an equally weird perspective helps drag me out of the blue Christmas. Last year I was pretty bummed out. Family health problems all the way across to the other side of the state. My job was too needy of me and I couldn't escape to be by the side of the man I have considered my hero since I was in my teens. A lady from Japan IM'ed me and asked why my answers seemed a bit off today. We talked, then laughed, then I was rolling of the computer chair with hurting sides. My father pulled through, but, the best thing is so did I. I talk to Reiri almost every week along with a Brazilian guy (no name), a Guam lady (no name), and a long list of others here from the States. Grab a pen pal and get to feeling groovy again! Come on! It won't hurt! Call somebody! (got best answer for that one!!!) Ya hooooo!
2007-12-25 11:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a friend in your neighborhood. I know this sounds daunting to a lot of people, even me! But I have learned that there are a lot of people out there who are lonely and you just saying hi or telling someone to drop by whenever, can be the beginning of a great friendship. This is how I found my best friend right now, and believe me, I have not had a good friend like her in years! I am 36, so I know it can get lonely and hard, even with a husband and kids! I know this may not make you feel better at the moment, but it worked for me, and I wish you the same luck!
2007-12-25 10:35:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get involved in your daughter's school activities.
Volunteer your time with a charity and meet people.
Join a running club, take a art/craft class.
I could go on, but the bottom line, is stop the pity party and pick yourself up, dust yourself off and go out into the world and be a great "you" and be the best person you can be.
Your happiness will come from within - you will never fine someone to "make you happy".
Once you start to make yourself happy, you will attract other happy people and you'll find yourself in an upward spiral of happiness, instead of a downward spiral of misery and loneliness.
No one wants to be around people who are miserable - it brings them down.
People want to be with happy, positive, confident people.
Find a purpose for yourself, and you will find self confidence and pride, and you'll be amazed at how good that makes you feel. Once yo feel good about yourself, other will start to notice, and it will sprial up from there.
You can do it if you try.
Take baby steps - nice and slow see.
Merry Christmas and good luck!
2007-12-25 10:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by willie pheeler 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a husband and just long for companionship also. Start by looking for inner peace with in. Find other women who share the same interest with you, find a hobby, or go to school. Look for feel good in your heart things to do, take your focus off the man and nurture yourself first When you do that, that is when you least expect your night in shining armour will arive on his white horse.
Good Luck
2007-12-25 10:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by bobcatlady2u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all want companionship, at times, and you need an adult to talk to. Maybe find a friend by finding a girl in similar situation? Too bad you were married and had a child, if you had waited a year or two, you would've found out what type of guy he is probably....
At least get child support from him...
2007-12-25 10:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a man who will care for you. It's what you missed from your hubby. Find the true one who will also love your daughter like what a real father does. I know he's just out there waiting.
2007-12-25 10:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by Jinky Pie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Join a single parents group.
2007-12-25 10:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by MUSHMAN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for your daughter, give her the extra love that your husband didn't give your. Your husband maybe don't know how to show love. Pray for him and ask God for comfort.
2007-12-25 10:37:08 · answer #9 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry that you found out about your him after you were married.
If you ever just want to chat you can Im me.
I have a good ear for listening.
2007-12-25 10:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by will_955 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋