We meet at hotel off and on because we are seprated. The other nite we went out and drank 5 hours at a hotel and just talked i asked him if i wasn't going to sleep with him would he still hang out with me he said yes. But it couldn't be everyday like once a month hotels are expensive for him and he lives with brother so can't go there. Well we drink sleep together and the next day he wants to buy me shoes takes me to breakfast and gives me 200 for my 2 daughters christmas one girl is ours together. He says don't confuse things we are still divorcing but he never goes and files he didn't go over the divorce papers i brought with me as my excuse to meet him. I wonder if he is embarassed in front of his family because he thinks i tryed to deport him and so do they when he was in military because he didn't call or answer my calls four month ait and basic even when he had a cell phone on him so i felt used and hurt. I went to immigration and told him i was doing this and that but never did
2007-12-25 01:37:22 · 10 answers · asked by poo~poo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I always think you can't be horny enough to get over the feeling of being used or thinking someone is going to deport you. So we must love each other to get over it on both sides but he always sounds adamit about divorce yet he will meet me and pay 70 on a hotel and after take me out and treat me nice when he knows i will sleep with him for free because i love him We don't trust each other though because of all this does it sound like he cares nobody can be that horny to get over someone trying to deport him. He didn't share his military bonus so he may feel guilty since he couldn't have even joined without marrying me. Hence the presents but he is willing to hang out with me. Does he care
2007-12-25 01:40:53 · update #1
Wow....a little confusing, but yeah I am sure he cares. You have a child together! But all the deporting and family opinions might be getting in the way, of true feelings. Either way you must make a decision for your children's sake. You don't want to hurt and confuse them more than already.
You need to sit down and have a heart to heart with this man, tell him how you feel. Ask him how exactly he feeling as well. Communication is the key. Make a decision from there and stick to it!
Good luck. Merry Christmas!
2007-12-25 01:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by Radertastic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving into him. He is getting the best of everything and you are left hurt. Just tell him either we are getting back together or it is over for good. From the sounds of things I don't think it is in your best interest to get back with him. Hotel rooms, breakfast and whatever he buys you are things he knows you will melt over so that is why he is doing it. He is really taking you for a ride.
2007-12-25 09:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by Toni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't people read this and realize the reason your relationship fell apart was MARRIAGE!!! Marriage destroys all relationships including soul mates. Now that you are seperated you are not married anymore and you want each other again. If you get divorced you will want each other even more. Then you will get married again and guess what?!??! The relationship is over!!! LOL DUHHHHHHHHHHH
2007-12-25 22:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants a hooker, not a wife.
He wants a woman when it's convenient, and doesn't want one the rest of the time.
You are being used like an old comfortable pair of shoes.
Don't let yourself be walked all over - move on.
2007-12-25 10:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by willie pheeler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but I would say that he is just worried about being deported.It sounds like you want the marrage to work.With this over his head he will keep things the way they are so its up to you.Do you want things to stay the same or do you want something more?
2007-12-25 09:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by dark angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously doubt that is really cares about you...He is using you as a booty call....Why would you still want to sleep with a man that is wanting a divorce? Why don't you go file for divorce?
2007-12-25 09:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is stringing you along for a reason, and you know what it is. It's time you took control of the situation. Do what is best for YOU.
2007-12-25 09:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if he loved you he would show it be careful he is using you for something
2007-12-25 10:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by datsleather 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its time to kick em to the curb and move on.
2007-12-25 12:34:04 · answer #9 · answered by panamarandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not sleeping with him and c if thats all he is there for
2007-12-25 10:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by Dianne E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋