Does it mean that you do not love him?
2007-12-25 01:17:05 · 21 answers · asked by TT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel tremendous guilt towards his wife though he does not love her
2007-12-25 01:22:31 · update #1
I have talked with her wife and can feel his pain becasue she has been mentally abusing him
2007-12-25 01:30:17 · update #2
Acutally, his wife on the phone told me that he is willing to give up everything except his child ('casue she neveer take care of him, he is just like a single dad) but she refuse the divorce becasue he leaves her becasue of me.
2007-12-25 01:52:57 · update #3
You don't have to feel guilty towards his wife, because if it wasn't you the one who he is seeing, it would be someone else, you are just in that spot, a spot you have chosen.
It's ok to love him same as many other people or love everybody.
Love yourself, end the relationship, look for a single guy, because you can do better, you are starting to realize that, you started to love and respect yourself, you started to realize you can be in a better spot than the one you are now.
It's true, it's been in your head he was all you can get, but that's not true.
Forget about feeling guilty, unless you need to feel guilty to make yourself feel good, which doesn't make any sense. Like you and him are many, and both group of people would be a perfect match. Just get out, go for something better, don't even bother on telling him you love him, he doesn't really care, who is his wife?, you or the other person?, and with who is him at this time?.
By the way, if the wife abused him, that's because he let that happen, and is a man without a backbone, a real, strong and mature man, doesn't go through that, probably can do it but for a very short period of time, a man who is a man, already know what he can take or what he wont take in his life, abuse is one of them (the same goes for a mature woman).
A person who is mature and strong, will get exclusivity from their partners, without demanding, without asking, just expecting, the ones who can't give it will be disregarded on their search. He can't give you exclusivity to you, he has a wife, he is weak, obviously he is abused.
The man you have chosen, says a lot about you, remember this: "it's my better half".
Is that your better half?, a married man, abused by his wife, who also has another person outside his marriage?.
Love yourself, get out, go for a better life, because nobody is stopping you, only yourself.
2007-12-25 01:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 04:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some here say guilt but my guess is you r a good person and you do not want the choice to be yours . People meet for a reason . It is destiny ,doesn't mean they are not suppose to be together. If it were his choice then that would prove his love for you.. Most men never leave their wife for another woman but they do cheat for one....You do not have the confidence in his love to believe he would leave his wife for you. A man that loves you would leave and sometimes marriages break b/c they just are not good for each other. When you truly love someone you love them forever so if it is meant to be then it will be . So many times this sort of thing happens and if the time is too long people move on. Love holds on. Merry Xmas to all....
2007-12-25 01:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by lilly l 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe it means you finally see the truth in this relationship. It is morally wrong, 95% of the time the man is taking you for a ride. If you do win the game and he leaves his wife, how long before you are the one he is cheating on? Read the statistics on cheaters. This is a no-win situation and you would be better off alone. Women have to learn to love themselves first and know they are worth more than a cheating loser. Don't be his pawn....Those feelings will go away quickly when you see him for what he really is.
2007-12-25 01:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by grl32bymom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough situation but one I feel can be resolved. It sounds like she's just holding on to a dead relationship that will not work or can't be fixed. No, if you did decide to break it off it does not mean that you no longer love him. You two just need to get together and see what can be done to get a divorce. Things will work out for the best. Good luck :)
2007-12-25 02:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by stormfire_06 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It means you finally got some sense! It's an insult when a woman HAS to go out with a married man just to some attention. Congratulations for waking up!
2007-12-25 06:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you are smart and are saving yourself alot of heartache. After all if he can do it to her he can do it to you one day believe me she is not the which he makes her out to be he just says this to get in your pants so you and him won't feel bad about what your doing. And when you think about whether you love him or not you are just falling back into the stupidity he wants you to be in. It doesn't matter if you love him or not he is not worth loving to love him is to hurt somebody that doesn't deserve it i'm sure! You should call her and tell her to run too but after that let her decide and mind your own bussiness.
2007-12-25 01:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by poo~poo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should probably add a bit more detail here... like the reason you are leaving him. Until then this question isn't really answerable.
I'm glad you posted more detail.
You've decided to end the relationship? It doesn't mean you don't love him, it just means that you know this isn't going anywhere. He was never your's to love.
2007-12-25 01:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by BeenThere 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you ending this. So many married men have outside relationships and indicate they are not happy, cannot divorce their wife because of the kids or money, ect..I've heard it all from married men wanting to go out with me...Not smart. All it does is hurt you, them, and the partners spouse if they ever found out. I agree w/Terri J as if this man cheated on his wife they usually will cheat on you.
2007-12-25 01:49:26 · answer #9 · answered by TVL 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. It does not mean you do not love him. It is just an affair--nothing more. If you are able to break up his marriage--then some other female can do the exact same thing to you. There are enough single men out there--WHY would you pick a married man??????
2007-12-25 01:25:32 · answer #10 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋