2007-12-24 23:37:54 · 30 answers · asked by ? 7 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
God is love and the purest representation on the earth is the mother. The closest love that comes to god, to the unconditional love of god, is a mother's love.
Now let us see whether this is possible between partners.
Love is joyous only when it is a sheer sharing, a gift, for no motive at all, no idea of getting anything. When it is not a means but an end unto itself it is joyous, then it celebrates. And for our whole life we search for a person, a situation, a place where love can bloom in utter nudity, in its totalness.
But it does not depend on the situation and it does not depend on the person; that's where we are wrong -- it depends absolutely on you. It does not depend on your finding a perfect person whom you will love totally; it depends on you. You can love totally and the person may be a devil and be as imperfect as possible. In fact if you love an imperfect person totally you help him to move towards perfection. And it happens unawares, he never becomes aware. An unconditional love provokes unconditional love in others too. So love for no reason at all. Love for the sheer joy that one is, and don't confine your love: let it remain liquid and flowing...
2007-12-25 02:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, look at it this way, unconditional love cannot exist just between two people. It is so noble and pure that it is deserved by everyone. The purity of the same is a hue so sweet and tender, like that of a rose. But, what have we done, given the rose to a proportionate figure and expecting the person to share feelings with you. That proves the unconditional love factor between just two persons.
True love is a noble thing, it is as I said deserved by everyone. Only when you give this unconditional love to everyone, will you reap anything out of it. It is almost never between only two emotionally involved people because there is the inevitable physical lust for the other, which shatters the originality and purity of the term itself.
So go ahead, give true love to everyone, not just one person and Im sure you'll reap the fruits.
2007-12-25 10:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by Adhithya S 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Think about what unconditional love MEANS. It means that if your partner beats you, rapes your children, scorns everything you do, and even does these things in public, you will still love your partner with all your heart. Your love will not be diminished in the slightest degree by anything that happens ever.
In other words, this means that your love has NOTHING to do with reality.
Are there people who love in this way? Of course there are. I'm sure we've all heard of people who have gone through even what I described above and maintained their love for their partner. But if you were completely out of touch with reality in any other way, we would use a different word - psychotic.
The mythical part of unconditional love is that it is a desirable thing. What you love says something about you. If your standards are so low that it is impossible to violate them, it is almost mandatory that your self-worth is equally low.
The kind of love you should want is not only conditional, but VERY conditional. You should want someone who treats you like the special person you are, who knows everything about you and who loves you back as much as you do them. You should want people who are willing to do things for you... and perhaps who are willing to do ANYTHING for you. It is these people that demonstrate your value; who will make you a better person instead of dragging you down into the gutter with them.
Who wouldn't want a partner who exalts them? Someone with nothing worth exalting.
2007-12-25 10:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by Doctor Why 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Unconditional love means no conditions. So therefor the people who require unconditional love back thats not giving unconditional love. But those who accept that the other person may have not given (or are givinging) them unconditional love, are loving unconditionaly.
2007-12-25 11:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kitten 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Certainly its a myth. Even God loves you conditionally though some might say it as unconditional. Doesn't God punish you if you make a sin???. If thats the case then he has condition for you to behave in certain traits that he feels is good.
2007-12-25 10:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by ROCK 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not a myth. Love is something you have to learn and work at all your life. Unconditional love is something you have to work at and learn about all of your life. The lessons of love go on with you to your grave.
Unconditional love is something I have seen often. It isn't a myth.
2007-12-25 09:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by the old dog 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would think that it may be easiler between Parent and Child rather than a between partners. A couple's love is more of romance that grows to become solid love over time, and I think daily demands in our lives makes it rather difficult to have it unconditional both ways. Sometimes, at dating stage, it is trial-and-error time, and that's definitely conditional love.
2007-12-25 07:51:15 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think there are always conditions, even if we're not aware that they're there (for example, the person who says they give unconditional love has a condition that they get the same in return).
2007-12-25 07:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by the Boss 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to be.
A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.
After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.
Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.
I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.
I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.
If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.
I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.
Love and blessings
Your brother
don
2007-12-25 09:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I believe that unconditional love is an ideal towards which people can reach. No one is perfect and no one can love unconditionally in the pure sense. Some people make an effort to love unconditionally more than others.
2007-12-25 08:09:14 · answer #10 · answered by David 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋