im so sad and disappointed in my husband. As of yesterday he still hadnt gotten me anything for xmas and he chose to sleep the day away until it was too late. i dont want to be selfish, but im upset that he didnt even try while i used christmas money sent to me as a gift to buy something he wanted but was too expensive. in otherwords it feels like i sacraficed for him but he still doesnt care enough to give me even a damn card.
2007-12-24 23:11:53 · 16 answers · asked by me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not wait for him to EVER buy you a present, you can do one of two things. You can get rid of the inconsiderate lazy bum or you can stay with him and feel this way every year for the rest of your life. I decided to stay with one like him and have been miserable for more holidays and birthdays than I care to admit. He really will NEVER change so do not count on any miracles. Quit spending money on him as he does not care and will never thank you for it the way you want him to. Be brave and get out before it is too late to find what you want in a man.
2007-12-25 01:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not overreacting. The money that was sent to you as a gift should be used on you and no one else. Never buy a present with the hopes of receiving one in exchange. Not everyone will be as considerate as you are and if you continue this pattern you will always be disappointed. Been there done that. Seems like you put others in front of yourself and now you're fed up. I say that you should take that dog on present back to the store and buy yourself something lovely. you don't need him to get you a present to make you happy, make yourself happy. I believe that many people have been in your situation and would say the same thing. Treat yourself, he doesn't deserve your thought and consideration. Besides shopping will make you feel better the sales and deals you will get the day after Christmas will be great. Take that money and get yourself something! Merry Christmas:)
2007-12-24 23:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by Tmeda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie....I'm in the same boat.....for many years now.....Xmas, anniv., my bday even was forgotten (said he got it confused with his brothers!?!?)...some men are selfish....I've finally woken up and am leaving mine, for a lot of other reasons (not just inconsideration).....soon it will be a new year and a new start.....think long and hard about what you really want out of life and go for it....once you truly decide, it feels like the weight of the world off your shoulders. Grab a cup of coffee, come back on here and let's plan what you're gonna buy for yourself at all those big sales tomorrow.....go for the gusto-----Neiman Marcus, Lord and Taylor, Saks----don't you dare set foot in Target or Walmart tomorrow......here are some ideas: expensive perfume, massage certificate along with a pedicure, a Dooney and Burke bag or Coach or LV if that's your style.....cashmere sweaters - note plural......get your hair done and nails and enjoy your day-----and don't even think about cooking dinner when you get home!!!!!!!! Good luck
2007-12-25 01:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by justlilme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but really you know he's just like this, and you have been putting up with it. Sorry to say, but I've been in the same situation. Tried lots of different things, like putting a list on the fridge (that worked, but I wanted him to choose one thing, and he bought everything on the list!). Now, he's more careful, because I explained to him over and over and over how important it was for him to mark special occasions. It took a lot of years, and for me to quit being mad, sad, and disappointed!
Hope things improve.
One idea, go out Boxing Day shopping, and just choose something you like, and ASK him to buy it for you as a Christmas gift.
2007-12-25 02:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my b/f was the same way and i would get all upset but i figured out a way to stop that. now every year instead of buying each other presents, we decide on something nice for our home, like a new tv, or a computer, or exercise equipment. something we both can use all year. then after christmas we go out and check the sales and this way you dont look for something from him you just know that you will go together and buy something. this takes the pressure off and when you put your money together you can buy something nice. this year we decided to just buy something for our dogs. we bought new dog beds and toys and clothes for our 4 dogs. it works out great. good luck....
2007-12-25 00:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by placidfury 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sooo sorry.
That happened to me pretty much every year with my ex. (BTW my divorce was because he abused my child, not over presents.)
Out of 4 yrs. the only present he EVER gave me was a dollar store hair brush. (We were not poor)
I would return his gift and get yourself something nice. Really!
It sounds like he is really selfish and needs a reality check. I am not suggesting divorce because you vowed to be with him. But you should let him know in no uncertain terms that he has a lot of work to get back into your good graces.
2007-12-24 23:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by firefly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a disgrace that you're afraid you might come across as selfish! Of course you're sad and disappointed in your husband! Who wouldn't be?
Wish I could make it better, or that I at least had some words of wisdom to impart... Sorry...
2007-12-24 23:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jules 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you want passion and romance.
He's satisfied with spending the rest of his life just trying to find a comfortable position on the couch to sleep the days away.
Passion isn't something that often gets re-kindled. Once it's gone, it's gone.
You want a different relationship than your husband. Start considering alternatives.
2007-12-24 23:17:42 · answer #8 · answered by pachl@sbcglobal.net 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
yes pretty shi*ty. he obviuosly doesn't care much about anyone other than himself.
Christmas is about giving and sharing. Take his gift back and get yourself a nice make over or something so you look really pretty when you dump him.
2007-12-24 23:20:01 · answer #9 · answered by soup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd take the gifts back and buy myself something and he can cry about that.
2007-12-25 01:10:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋