Had to happen really didn't it, The happiest day of the year and I wake up depressed. I don't mean to bring any of you's down today I am just hoping someone can relate or offer some advice.
When I opened my eyes this morning I just felt like crying, I remembered its Christmas day and I just didn't care, I have heard of people being depressed around christmas because they are lonly or what ever, I am far from it, I have a wife and 2 kids.
I got up and watched the kids opening there presents and was smiling away but it near killed me to smile, behind that smile all I wanted to do was burst into tears for no apparant reason, I haven't been depressed in quite a while and i'm baffled as to why it has happened today.
2007-12-24 21:22:11 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
what medication are you taking
zoloft might help
2007-12-24 21:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by virgil 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm depressed too. It's a common thing to happen at Christmas time because it's said to be a happy time. However, it can also be a health problem, especially if there is no apparent reason for being miserable about anything.
I think you've done the right thing by the kids. Let them have a day of happiness without spoiling it for them.
But when the day's over, I suggest you seek medical help before things get out of hand. Seriously. My wife went through a period of depression. She didn't see a doctor. She ended up attempting suicide. Our kids went through hell. You want to prevent that by seeing a doctor early.
Bear in mind that there is no magic cure. Treating depression is a black art, so be patient with yourself, and make sure your family understands what is going on. With some luck, things will turn out OK.
2007-12-25 05:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by Raichu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
god I can;t believe it, well I thimk you sould calm down now, If you need to cry do it don't think why you're doing it. don't think much about christmas. then try to think why you feel depressed, mostly likely you're not finding or getting something that you like or you want. the last time i was depressed was because of a break up, my situation is Ilive bymyself, far from my family, I don't have frieds, and didn't have a job. I'm spending between 6-7 days a week by myself, and I have to be checked by a doctor but don't have health coverage (if you live in the us u know what I'm talking about) anyhow I figured that the only thing that break me down is my ex, I kind get over it a little bit I'm open for a relationship, but not finding what I want but which is good, I don't feel depressed but I went through a lot of steps and it took me so long.
anyways, what makes you unhappy talk to someone, sometimes it's the way how we see thing. if you want edit your question or email me.
it's good if you talk even here on Y Answers, when we are depressed we can't really see claerly and we need peole to help us
2007-12-25 05:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably something subconsious that has got you down- or a lack of excitement and change going on in your life. Try doing something spontaneous, or planning something with your family or even by yourself...to have something to look forward to. I get depressed randomly like that as well, so I understand. It's weird because you don't know why you feel like bursting into tears. Sometimes it's good to get those tears out (even if you don't know what they are for) and just cry with someone you trust (doesn't have to be your wife) and just let them hold you while you get it out. Sometimes, that helps me, and by the time I'm done sobbing, I got out the emotion, someone helped me through it, and I shake my head at myself cause I look like an idiot, and I feel tons better. Try some different things- I really hope things work out for you hun...I'll be thinking of ya! MERRY CHRISTMAS!
2007-12-25 05:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by Alesha 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
quite understandable, chap...this day is so fraught with consumer post-modern crap that it is unbearably depressing. watching your childrn revel in it only exacerbates the depression, because you are watching them delight in such superficial nonsense. (by no means did i imply any insult of sorts...) just try to take ignore all the nonsense, clear your head by taking a walk alone in the cool, crisp air (perhaps even sip on an irish coffee, eh?) and appreciate the beauty of the season (i.e. the external, ethereal beauty like the leaves swaying on trees, or the barrenness of the neighborhood on this holiday).
also, you convey that you believe xmas is the happiest day of the year. by that thought alone you are putting pressure on yourself subconsciously to have the perfect, happiest day. when you awoke this pressure unknowingly may have dawned on you,and thus depressed you. no worries, mate. feel better.
2007-12-25 05:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people say that they get like that around Christmas. I know it use to be my favorite time of the year but now I cannot stand it. I guess that is why so many people drink from now until new years. Is it over yet?
2007-12-25 05:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by athenajalee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe consider seeking therapy if u cant have a heart to heart conversation with ur wife there has to be some deep dark problem maybe u need some u time to sit away from every n anything and think to urself what am i missing or wanting u dont want to do anything dramatic or out of the ordinary just yet u have to think about ur kids and wife and how it would affect them :) good luck
2007-12-25 05:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by sOfeDuPwitHheRcRap 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because its Christmas it doesnt mean you cant feel depressed. The build up to Xmas can make anyone feel like it. Why dont you speak to your wife and tell her how you feel. Im sure she will understand then you may be able to have a cry on her shoulder. If she knows how you are feeling she may be able to help. You have been depressed before so tell her.
2007-12-25 05:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lou 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yep, i recognize it, i usually have that as well, same on newyears eve, people are expected to be happy, you immagine everybody being together, having fun, laughing and here you are all alone, but in fact that is where you wanne be, you wanne be alone and feeling sad and depressed, you will get over it. i usually take a nice long hot shower, make me some coffee, eat all the comforting foods i can find all day and watch some tv, cry every now and than and before you know it, it's time to go to bed again.
good luck
2007-12-25 05:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by dutchcutie68 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes people just have random feelings like that.
If this happens frequently you should maybe get on some anti-depressants or see a doctor. Maybe you just need someone to talk to about something. Is something bugging you?
But cheer up! It's Christmas!
Happy new years budd .
2007-12-25 05:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
do u have some1 close to u that is dead and u miss them it can happen on thesespecial times of the year .if it continues please seek a therapist and find out why get the answers u need .sorry to hear u felt this way on christmas i wish u the best of luck
2007-12-25 05:59:34 · answer #11 · answered by Psychologist In The House 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋