Is this obsession or love. What is the best way to distinguish the two?
2007-12-24 20:14:46 · 7 answers · asked by TT 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
doktrgroove: sorry to say that I am in this situation and I am the victim. This has result in an affair (which is my fault to solve a marriage problem) though it has ended. I wonder if I should file a divorce when the third party issue is 'gone' and give 6 mths to look into it. We are under counselling now.
2007-12-24 20:31:48 · update #1
She is insecure and needs to control her husband by being a part of his life 24/7. It's EXTREMELY unhealthy and will be a major factor in their eventual breakup.
The difference between the two is that love feels good, but obsession/insecurity feels bad.
2007-12-24 20:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by 1M9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have lost her trust. Trust once lost is hard to recover. Counseling should help but open and honest communications between the both of you would be recommended. You see it as obsessing, she sees it as betrayal. She has a right to be hurt and probably feels that you will do it again if given the chance. You will have to work very hard to regain her trust.
2007-12-24 20:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Phyllis C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would anyone want to attach to anyone 24/7?
There must be some sort of insecurity or jealousy issue.
2007-12-24 20:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by savahna5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say either obcession or a huge lack of trust.
Love can be obcessive.
I think he is very insecure.
Get couples counseling.
Check in with him ocassionally.
Gosh you don't want to live like this. I did and it just about destroyed my spirit & soul
2007-12-24 20:21:22 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's an obsession borne from insecurity. You will never win. You're not actually married to her, are you?
2007-12-24 20:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by doktrgroove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply there isn't trust, you might not trust you man.
or lately something isn't feeling right to you.
2007-12-25 02:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by frenchi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someting has her feeling insecure
2007-12-24 20:17:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋