My mom and I don't talk much.. and she's working all day on Christmas. My dad died 8 months ago, my brother is in juvenile detention for going nuts after my dad died, my grandma doesn't talk to me (although we're civil). My fiance is Jewish.
Also, my best friends have their own lives now-without me.
Is this what it's going to be for the rest of my life? I'll be 23 on thursday. Kind of young, but kind of older.
2007-12-24 18:28:57 · 12 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
When my dad was alive we always had elaborate holidays. This year: no dinner, no movies, no present exchanging.
2007-12-24 18:30:11 · update #1
Sounds like your mom is missing your dad. I'm still not over my dog that passed away 2 years ago. We still cry now and then. But losing a spouse? Yikes. I don't like to think about that.
So please allow your mom to grieve. She needs the space and time.
Maybe you could join a class. Cafting...dancing....exercise...cooking. Or volunteer to help others less fortunate.
You sound like you need some company. Get up, get out and meet some new people.
Good luck!
(**)
2007-12-24 19:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by Shmooks 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Aw -- it seems as though your mom might still be grieving, hun, and maybe she's working to avoid the holiday without your dad, but doesn't realize how lonely *you* are.
It won't be like this forever, I don't think. I hope your brother is getting some help for his grieving and acting out, too.
But I really do wish you some hope for this Christmas. Maybe next Christmas it will be filled with the joy you are longing for...it might be wise to plan ahead and make some plans for how you will spend your day next year, so that you aren't left alone and feeling so lonely.
Sorry, too, about the loss of your dad.
2007-12-24 18:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did not celebrate Christmas before I was 15 years old.
Now I celebrete Christmas everyday.
Hope is here in the air.
There is a time to be sad, a time to laugh, a time to cry, a time to smile. It's wonderful for me to know tomorrow I can once again experience God's grace. I am not perfect, the world can be a mess, I might not have all l want, but I am give thanks for what I have. Mostly, God's grace will pull me through. Christ in me is to live, to die is to gain. If bad things happen it's a gain to depand on God. If God is for me, who can be against me.
What did Jesus bring with him that night when the
wise bought him the gifts?
Already all those people received Peace, and Joy and
God's love to the world.
Peace and Joy within our hearts when Christ was
born.
Let's take the peace and make it solidly, admit that
God is in control.
Let's make the joy of the Lord our strength.
Let's have God's love be the only one motive to act
out our everyday life.
The God we worship is not just a might God, He is
the Almighty God.
Our God is not just a counselor, but a Wonderful
Counselor.
Christ is the reason for the season.
I hope you have a wonderful Christmas.
And also you have a richly blessed New Year to come.
Peace, Joy, and Love with you and your family.
2007-12-24 20:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by wawa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, i am not very good in talking, so please forgive me if what i am about to say will offend the hell out of you. =_=.
First, the solution is simple, go pay your poor mom a visit during her break time.
(it's hard to make a living nowadays, especially and particularly for a single mom, no one would ever "likes to work on Christmas eve/days", so, i assume she now works very hard just to support the family she loves, right?)
after all, dinner, movies and present exchanging means nothing when you are not with your love ones. Get together with the family and live through the hardship and keep hopping and to enjoy the better future after you fight against ones faith, that's the spirit of the Holiday.
(don't get Miss-guided by commercialized Christmas, nothing is more important than family. :)
Cheers, and wish all will get better for you and your family. ^_^.
2007-12-24 19:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by meowgahertz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
will your fiance at least be with you today?
maybe go have lunch with your mom during her lunch break, if you guys dont talk much, she is your mom and it is christmas.
23 is still very younger i think. no the rest of your life is not goign to be this way.!
2007-12-24 18:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps donate some time to a homeless shelter serving food. You'll be around people plus its a good deed.
2007-12-24 18:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by bv0r_27 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you have to have someone you talk to like a frined or family member talk to them or watch tv or play with your phone
2007-12-24 18:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is up to you to ask what the hell is wrong with your people ,we be a family or i will quit from you all and get on with my life
2007-12-24 18:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by alfie thai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a dog play with it like I do.
2007-12-28 13:10:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anna S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something that makes you happy just you
2007-12-24 18:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋