Help! I need wise advice?

Question

So Ive had this girlfriend for 3 years. She broke up with me about 5 months ago because I was hanging out too much with friends and not paying enough attention to her. I let her go, I didnt care when we broke up and now, 5 months later Im depressed and really started to miss her

I talked to her and told her I would change but she just said that although she still loved me in a way, I better apply my changes and show my love on my next relationship.

Now we're best friends and we almost every night for about 2 hours but I still love her so much. However, she has blocked every romantic feeling she has for me and apparently feels nothing for me right now.

PS. We got together in high school, cause we're both nerdy but then I stopped being nerdy(still am, just more conident) She still is nerdy and extremely shy, never drank a drop of alcohol and never will. She doesn't dress in an atractive manner so guys dont notice her, so that's a plus for me.

What do you think?

Oh and another reason she dint want to come back with me was because her mom didnt like me. No problem with her dad or anyone else just her mom. Is there a chance for me? She has no one else really beside me and her family no real friends.

Answer 1

Besides unless you see relationships as being something deeper then sex and romance, your not going to have much of a chance to win her back. By the very nature of that game, you lost her, she's got self-control, typical of the nerdy variety. On top of that, you already neglected her worth, and moms is her best-friend, so screw'd you are, she'll constantly remain her of this fact, on top of the memories that well help her feel it like it was yesterday. Unless you get your head out of your butt and realize the true deep of a meaningful relationship is the truth and honesty shared thru the friendship. Romance isn't what you need from her, you need her simply to accept that she feels for you, THEN you can use that love, those feelings, to hopfully see in you what it is, that she needs. Good luck with that, your a bit clueless, no offense....

Answer 2

To be honest she seems quite mature for her age because the classic guy saying "i have changed" is usually met with "thats good to know .hope your next relationship enjoys that" is something i rarely hear from anyone below the age of 21.
Also sadly thats a bad sign because it almost always means you are history.
Is there hope?Maybe.
I would give it a few tries and ask her if there is anything you can change or do that will make her consider dating you again.
If not then time to move on.Simply put she is ready to move on and explore the vast open plains as you should be too.
Sometimes its hard to let go and we men have a problem.
We let go easily and then after a while realise what we lost.
Happened to me before,currently happening to my fiancee's ex and is happening to you.
With women it seems that the inital phase is the hardest and once they are thru it they rarely turn back.