OMG. my best homegirl is going to have a baby && she only 14. but going to be 15 on jan. n-e-ways. yea she like 3 months pregnet && she happy about it. when we use to go to middel skoo. all she would talk about is haveing a baby. but when her ex found out she is pregnet he go so mad. when she found out he was mad. she got sad && now she wants to kill her baby for him. she keeps on telling me that she loves her ex && would do anything for him. but is anything killing your own baby worth it all? i dont want her to kill her baby && i dont know what to do. she so sad that the guy is mad at her. cuz the baby ant his. but the guy was such an asshoe. he was always mest up to her. && idk why she still loves him. but what should i do? what should i tell her to not kill her baby? im so cunfused. plz help me:'[
2007-12-24 16:15:06 · 24 answers · asked by L U N A. 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
HELL NO !!! dont let her kill the baby !!!!!!
2007-12-24 22:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by It is finally 2008 !! 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The one thing everyone is missing here is it's illegal to have an abortion after 3 months unless the child has some serious debilitating condition like downs syndrome. But it has to be proven by a doctor, and in that case she can eliminate the pregnancy no later than 6 months. So, if you can tell your friend that if she is planning on killing a 3 month old fetus for a BOY that doesn't even love her, she is looking at a lifetime of regret. Not only will she be held responsible for murdering a child, she will possibly face jail time. Tell her she has a chance to do the right thing, and believe it or not, she will grow up one day and realize this guy is nothing compared to what she actually deserves. Good luck to her.
2007-12-25 02:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she crazy?! Like there are other ways to show her ex that she truely loves him, besides killing an innocent unborn child. I say it's completely wrong, and not worth all the trouble. She's going to regret it in the future, I'm nearly sure of it. And if he is an ****** then surely, if I were your friend, I wouldn't give up my child for such an idiotic man, because chances are, they might break up soon after, since they have already been exes, it might happen again. So, to close in, I think she should just keep the baby, since aborting the innocent baby is not worth it for such a stupid and selfish ex, who might as well, after a few months dump her, or vice versa.
I wish you and your friend the best of luck with this situation, because you guys seem to be in a tough situation, but very easy to solve.
2007-12-25 00:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by Aurora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from me i'm 17 and have a 5month old, and i was still 16 when i had her, killing an unborn child is MURDER and should never been done, and i belive that she could totally handle this baby with the help of family and good friends, she should never listen to what a man has to say!! and her ex isn't even the father!! he has no say what so ever in the matter!, i had some of my fmaily tell me to have an abortion because they thought i was too young, and now they always want to see her. but belive me not haven a abortion was the best damn thing i ever did!!!
2007-12-25 04:16:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...wow...i agree with everyone here. it is sad that your friend may have to make such an adult decision but that is what it is right now. please do whatever you can to not have her have that abortion. though abortion SEEMS like the way out it really isn't. As for the whole love thing for that guy...mmm..thats hard. Cause when ppl are in LOVE then they do some stupid things. But for you sweety your job in all of this is to try to make your friend see that this baby is important and deserves to be in this world. ...and most of all be with her. If she decides for the abortion..be with her...the next thing she doesn;t need is to lose a friend.
2007-12-25 11:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by Franny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend is confussed but if he is asking her to do this now think of the trouble he will get her in later he dont love her or even respect her she needs to let him go she will find something better for her and her child why was she having sex at 13 anyway she is still a baby. give it up, or have the doctor help some body will help good luck and dont fall for guys stupid tricks
2007-12-25 01:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by onix557 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't make the decision to have sex. You didn't make the decision to not be careful. You didn't choose her ex. And it's not your decision regarding what she chooses to do. I think it's ok to tell her how you feel using "I" sentences. Like I think, I feel, I believe. Then, not judging her, but judging if she is good for you or not, remake the decision about being her friend. This is a lot. You should not take it on yourself. If you choose to continue to be her friend, just be that, a friend. Be supportive, caring, understanding etc., but unless you are willing to accept the consequences of her doing as you say she should, don't tell her what to do. This belongs to her, not you.
peace
2007-12-25 16:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by Linda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTLEY NOT!!!! SHE SHOULD NOT KILL HER BABY!!!! I'm here holding my 4 month old daughter in my arms and reading this passage broke my heart! I'm in tears! She most definitely should keep the baby. It's the most beautiful, wonderful, most amazing thing that ever happened to me. And if he has a problem with it then LEAVE HIM!!!! he's not worth it if he feels like she should kill her baby! especially if she WANTS to have it! I'm a guy and don't get this dude, it makes me want to find him and knock some sense into him. DO NOT KILL YOUR BABY!!!! That's murder and taking a innocent, precious life from this world. Please think hard about this decision and do what's right.
2007-12-25 00:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by J 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
It's not his decision, it's completely the decision of the mother, even though this isn't a likely story. If her ex has a problem with her ahving a baby, then screw him. It's up to her.
2007-12-25 00:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by Amelia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO IF SHE WANTS TO KEEP THE BABY. SHE HASSSSSSS TO!!!! MAKE SURE SHE TALKS ABOUT THIS W/ HER PARENTS. THIS IS HER BABY AND SHE DOESNT HAVE TO KILL IT.
if her bf wants to killl him then WHY THE **** would he have sex w/ her. if he didnt want a baby he should have made a better decision but too late. its his fault she has the baby too now he has to live w. it
MAKE SURE SHE KEEPS THE BABY
but only if she truly wants it
if her BF loved her, then he would support her.
2007-12-25 00:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by jenn 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
she should not have an abotion if it is not right for her. you should try to convice her to talk to her parents or a trusting adult 15 is young to have a baby but if her parents are supportive she can do it also there is adoption i hope this helps
2007-12-25 00:39:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋