my mom was a inhome care provider aka getting paid by the state to take care of my dad she ran off to egypt and didnt tell them and wants me to forge her signature take care of adad and give her the money but i dont want to go to prison but she doesnt want me to talk to them what do i do
2007-12-24 16:05:54 · 10 answers · asked by sherryreaves 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
thanks for everything:) it really does help cuz i didnt know what to do now i do
2007-12-25 08:24:21 · update #1
Don't forge her signature. Why should you pay for her selfish actions?
2007-12-24 16:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sordenhiemer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One other consideration is this..... if you forge it and send her even one check or just send her the money she has you over the barrel. She will be able to say that if you do not contunue to send her money she will make a call and get you in trouble.
Now she is safe as she is thousands of miles away so extradition would be difficult. She could make a call and say she knows that fraud is happening. For one the payments or any other benefits could be susupended or taken away. The state could demand repayment of any money paid out previously.
And of course this is a serious crime. Even being charged w. it could impact employment on your part...... and also cost much in legal fees. If your father is lucid HE could be charged.
If anybody has any sort of permanent residency that could be revoked.
So basically you are taking all of the risk. This is one of those things that require making the tough call. Sure no matter what happens your mother is your mother. But the well being of you and your father is most important. You have to call the state and inform them.
2007-12-25 03:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not OK. The money is to take care of your dad. How come the checks are on her name? If you forge her signature, sooner or later they will find out, you will do time. Your mom is a selfish *****. If you send her the money how is your dad going to be taking care of. Obviously she doesn't care about you or your dad, just herself. Don't do it.
2007-12-24 16:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by loralaey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always know what to do if you live with integrity. Living with integrity means living with truth, love and authenticity.
Forging your Mom's signature is a lie. It is deceiving someone. You would be pretending something that is not true --- and that would compromise your integrity. Do not do it.
It sounds like your mom wants to escape her responsibilities and put them on you. She is trying to use you. She is trying to make you hurt your own soul by lying for her. She is risking getting you in legal trouble by trying to force you to lie to the state. This shows that she does not have your best interests at heart.
Don't be afraid to stand up to her, to stand up for what is right. Do what is right for yourself. When you do what is right for yourself, it is always what's best for everyone else, even if they don't agree.
2007-12-24 16:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by Michael S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whomever is taking care of your dad is the one that deserves the money.
Notify the state immediately and get your dad another provider.
After she deserted him, and you, why would you even think to help her.
Tell her to enjoy her subjugation in Egypt.
At least that is what I would do.
2007-12-24 16:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by Gem 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The scenario you present is a difficult one for you, if you love your mom. Regardless of your affections for your mom, I would advise you not to join her in this conspiracy against the government; her act of asking you is a violation of law and you need to consult an attorney regarding this situation. Tell the attorney the truth and inquire about attorney-client privilege regarding your admissions and what you should do and how to do it. Then follow the attorney's advise.
2007-12-24 16:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by Bwana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So my taxes are going to pay for her vacations in EGYPT !?
WTF!?
Just do the right thing... No one was ever sent to jail for doing the right thing. Plato once said, "Your silence gives your consent." Sometimes doing the right thing is hard. Sometimes its embarrassing. But, it speaks miles of your character. If you turn her in, you should be rewarded... Publicly.
2007-12-24 17:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by Robert S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not do it! You could end up in jail!
Let them know she left! If you can take care of him, then you can become his paid care giver and the checks will then be in your name. Of course she doesn't want you to tell them. She wants paid for a job she isn't doing!
2007-12-24 16:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by onlyme 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it. It would be a Federal crime.
SERIOUS jail time plus a lifetime record as a criminal.
Also, if you are Egyptian - or any other non-American citizen - you'll be deported, and not allowed back into the US.
Richard
2007-12-24 16:18:10 · answer #9 · answered by rickinnocal 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mama's not doing you any favors...why do any for her? Get the help you and your dad need.
2007-12-24 16:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by evans_michael_ya 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋