I'm 17 and pregnant & my boyfriend is going to break up with me if I don't get ride of it! HELP?!?

Question

Ok so I just found out I was pregnant by my boyfriend of 1 week. We had hooked up on and off for a long time and then decided to date so we have been together officially for 1 week. I took a pregnancy test and it was positive and then went to the doctor and he confirmed it. My boyfriend basically said he will break up with me if I don't have an abortion and I don't want him to I am in LOVE with him. He won't marry me either. I don't know what to do?!

Answer 1

keep your baby, get rid of that nasty boy. if he doesn't want to stick by you with a baby, it's not worth it in the long run. he obviously won't stick with you through thick or thin so now you have your answer about his maturity level. bottom line, if you can't take care of the baby, adopt out but don't get rid of it because he says so. there are a million people out there who want a baby so badly that they would mug a nun for one. give that child a chance and adopt out. good luck and a counselour can help, really.

Answer 2

Hi there, this is something I understand you to be fearful of discussing with your parents. But I encourage you to speak to your mother or father. You are almost an adult now and your boyfriend is most likely scared and , while rightfully so, he was grown up enough to take you to bed, he needs to be adult enough to be a man about it when the time comes.
I will tell you that had my father , when he was 16 not been a man, I wouldnt be here today. Not only did he stick by my mother but they remained happily married for 30 yrs. I am proud of my parents and what they stood for. Make your child proud, discuss it with you rfamily and make decisions that are right for you. While I am certain you love your boyfriend if he doesnt reciprocate where does that leave you in the end? I wish you well kiddo, and again, talk to a parent, a teacher , a Sister anyone YOU feel comfortable setting that discussion with. believe me, once the discussion is over and the plans start to form it gets to be much easier. Make decisions based on you. I hope you read my post, and fear a little less, merry xmas , and life will get better, while it seems the hardest thing you will ever go through it will also be your most rewarding if you let it.

Good Luck

Answer 3

First of all...you don't need to be married to have a baby. Yes, sometimes it is better that way..but you are so young..odds are it would end in divorce anyway and that is no good for you or your baby.
Second, you need to do what you feel is right for you. If you want to have this child HAVE it. Your boyfriend might leave you, but you will have that child for the rest of your life.
Third, just because he won't marry you doesn't mean that he won't take care of your child. Child Support Enforcement was made for a reason. but I really hope you wont' have to go there. Hopefully he will grow up a little and realize that he is going to be a father and will do what's right. Good Luck...I suggest you also talk to your parents about this decision. Technically you are old enough to make it by yourself, but you would be surprised how much help they can be. I hope everything works out for you no matter what you decide.

Answer 4

Unlike the people above me, I'm not going to crucify the guy.

How did you feel when you found out you were going to be a mommy? Scared as heck? Well that's how he feels!! He's panicking!

Now, abortion IS an option, IF you want it. Lots of people have lots of different ideas on abortion, but I know some women who've had them, and they're glad they did. I know one woman who regrets hers. It varies.
Decide whether or not to keep the baby without thinking about the man. Your boyfriend (I'm sorry to say) will likely not be with you for the rest of your life. Your decision will. If you abort the baby for him, and he leaves, you will hate yourself. Make the decision for yourself.

I'm saying this in all honesty and encouragement: You are an adult now. More at this moment than most people will be for years. Being an adult means knowing that your decisions are yours to make, and that they will have consequences. Make the choice for you. If you choose to be a mom, be the best mom you can be. If you choose to wait until you're done with school, then apply that motivation to making yourself successful in school and driving you. Either way, you're going to be a grown up girl in a way your boyfriend is going to have to come to grips with.

Make the choice about the baby, and then make the choice about whether or not to stay with him. Do you think he can grow up with you? or does he value his juvenile life too much?

This is an answer I can't tell you. I can't tell you what to do. No one can. All I or any one else can do is give you information and perspective. Don't do anything because you're worried if people here will aprove. This is your life, and you're going to have to live with yourself. They'll stop thinking about you when they click on the next question.

Answer 5

Have you only been with this person? Only being together for a week, it is possible it could be someone else's if you are sexually active. It is also possible that you could not be fully in love with this person, it's only been a week. Your emotions are all over the place right now, due to your age as well as the pregnancy.
Answer-Don't get rid of the baby. What's more important? Chances are if you choose the boyfriend he may leave and then you are stuck with making a decision to make him happy that will haunt you for life. Knowing people who have had abortions, all of them wish they hadn't. If you can't care for the baby don't punish him or her, give her up for adoption. Please take are of yourself, and make decisions you can live with and won't regret later. Anyone who tells you to get rid of a baby is not worth your time. They are not responsible and don't care about the damage it will do to you. Do you call that love? Hang in there.

Answer 6

I'm 18 and pregnant by my boyfriend of 3 years. If he made me make that decision, I wouldn't have to think twice: it would be my baby.

Don't marry someone because you are pregnant; that is the most ridiculous reason I have ever heard of.

YOU decide what YOU want to do. If you get an abortion, you will have to deal with that decision for the rest of your life. My dad gave my mum the same ultimatum when she was 15/16. She still hates him for it, because she felt she had no choice and did it. They didn't last more than a few years.

Answer 7

If he said rob a bank or i am going to break up with you then would you do it?

This is up to you and only you. If you want an abortion for reasons unto yourself then that is fine but to do it for someone else well i just don't see things like that.

I would say he is not wanting to be tied down since he is i guess 17 also? Think about your life and what this will do to you not him.
He may not be with you one way or the other so don't make decisions based on threats.

You can get an abortion up to 24 weeks but if your going to do it , then you should do it sooner than later.

Answer 8

well hun for one your not inlove with him if hes only a boyfriend of one week, you deeply inlike. im 17 and 6 months preg. if your "boyfriend" is going to leave you, then let him there is plenty of men out there.... please dont get an abortion i promise you with everything in me that youll regret it. what happens if you can only have one child and this is the one and you abort it, you take your chances on never having children. im sorry he wont marry you and im sorry that hes threatening you with such things but you need to be responsible and do whats right and thats having that baby, if you do not choose to want it at least put the baby up for adoption so a couple that can not concieve and really wishes to take care of a child can have one instead of throwing him away. this is not my decsion and i am not juding you im just telling you im 17 and im going thru it just not the same sitution with the babysdaddy... do whats right... for the baby, please. its a life. and it does feel everything. i hope you choose for the best. good luck and merry christmas.

Answer 9

I dont want you to think i am putting pressure on you but
do kill a life over a boy
you maybe in love with him but he is not in love with you if he wat you to kill a life
you kill that life and you dont no what might happen
that life you killed could have became the next president of a doctor to discover a cure for a disease
that boy is now worth it
i know pwople that have had abortions and
they live with that for the rest of their lives
they could get married and have other kids
and they still live with what they did
yu have that baby
and you will br blessed in that long run
you might not be blessed yourself
but god might bless you through that child
and you dont have to put u with him
you have that baby
trust god
Pray
Congrats
I wish you the best of luck
Happy holidays

Answer 10

Dump the loser boyfriend! Its obvious he doesnt care for you or the baby at all. You dont need someone like that in your life! You certainly deserve better! Just do not get a abortion because if you do you will regret it for the rest of your life!