My husband is not nice.he ignores me, is fuull of rage..banging cabinets all the time, complaining he does everything around the house, freaks out if a light is left on, started washing out paper cups, keeps the heat on 60 (of colurse i turnn it up) freaks out if i put hte dishwasher on and its not full..gets mad at me if i go food shopping...(he like to do everything..) and I have no idea what I did..I asked him whats the matter and he says LOUDLY nothing!!! what the heck!!!
Don't say it is a money problem..we have enough and then some...
2007-12-24 15:57:16 · 21 answers · asked by josiejo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i want to add that he also started dring like 3x a week..and we have 2 boys 5 and 7. alos, counseling is out of the question..he will not go!
PS Happy Holidays
2007-12-24 16:06:49 · update #1
one more thing..he has always been controlling..well tried to be controlling, i never listened to him..but he is losing his mind now..this is all new, the past month..he will not go to a DR.
2007-12-24 16:13:37 · update #2
he has some type of mental proble. Seeing doctor or councselling is a must. Else how do you find a way to improve. Working it out by yourself has been creating a big burden. You need to share that with someone. For kid sake, a divorce is better than a conflicted marriage. You need to protect your kid. Do you want them to grow up like their dad?
2007-12-24 16:17:30 · answer #1 · answered by TT 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a husband with a past of anger and other bad problems, I would honestly say that you need to stop writing to people on Yahoo! Answers. The BEST thing you can do right now, is write what you wrote here, to him, on a piece of paper, and leave it for him when you go to work. Let him have a day to read it over to himself and think. You never know, a simple letter can do a LOT. People have forgotten how powerful words can be with today's instant-communication of cellphones, email, IM, etc. Giving someone a letter and some time to read and think it over can change the world. Enjoy.
2007-12-25 00:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you really tried to LISTEN to your husband? He's telling you in other ways that there definitely IS a problem and may be telling you exactly what it is. Fighting fire with fire isn't always the best way to go about it - and men will see "WHAT'S THE MATTER?" as nagging. He obviously is a man of control - or it could be the home is his domain and he likes to keep control of it because he feels he lacks in other areas. If you cannot approach him to talk to you on a one on one basis, you have a big problem - as we all know communication is key to a successful partnership and perhaps you can coerce him into seeing someone with AND without you to get to the root of his problem.
2007-12-25 00:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by *Meg* 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hey sister do not worry when he throws something on floor or pushes away cabinets.. try helping him to push more cabinets and throws things away..
This will make him confuse and may be able to say something..
Seems he has some problem need not always be monetary problem may be hehas problem professional front.. or may be some one hurt him saying something bad about you which he disliked.. Give time to your relationship but always remain cool and keep smiling... Wish him merry christmas and very happy new year.. make all his favourite food and keep telling him how much u still love him
2007-12-25 00:20:18 · answer #4 · answered by dewdrop 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You both have a serious problem of not communicating.
Its time to talk properly about everything.
It doesnt sound like you are very close to him
You both need some counselling to help you get on track. If this continues and no improvement, get out and get a new life for yourself.
2007-12-25 00:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by Sanpal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He just sounds like an a$$hole. Get him in counseling so he can see what his behavior is doing to your relationship. If he won't go, tell him to get a good lawyer because yours is going to be fantastic.
Sorry you're going through this. You sound like a nice lady and shouldn't have to put up with someone being mean to you.
2007-12-25 00:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has he always been this way? Is it a sudden change? Could he be unhappy with his job, the relationship? Something must be bothering him? Is he over stressed? What about his health or mental health, might be something you should talk with your family physician about, maybe he can arrange for a physical, get something to calm his nerves.Can you sit him down and talk with him? One really needs more info.
2007-12-25 00:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by ferochira 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Could he have bipolar disorder or OCD - especially if he has to control everything? Is it really worth the effort of living with him and being treated like this?
2007-12-25 00:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by SuperGeek 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is always like this 24/7 then I bet he is battling depression. Have him go to the doctor and see if he needs to get on ani-depressants. My husband use to be that way but now that he is on anti-depressants he is still himself however his behavior has changed 95%.
2007-12-25 00:06:04 · answer #9 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
is he old enough to be going through a mid-life crisis? my hubby went through that for a couple years (mid 30's) before I couldn't handle it anymore and we worked through it. (ultimatum: we work through this together or I'm going to have to leave) More communication is the key! always start a sentence with "I feel" (like "I feel like your angry") and do not use "you" (like "you are always angry") You can't deny someone a feeling, but can put someone on the defensive using "You always". I hope that helps. It's rough, I know.
2007-12-25 00:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by whispurrr_on_a_scream 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋