Attempted sex w/ my bf for the first time & although he wanted to his penis would not stay erect enough to have intercourse. He was able to with a little work with a BJ. Is this just first time jitters or should I be concerned about me or him?
2007-12-24 15:47:04 · 12 answers · asked by kbear 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
No, it's common.
I guess that as you become more familiar with one anothers' bodies you will become able to make love more easily and with more satisfaction.
Give some sort of teasing by mouth or hand and if he responds to that, fine. If he loses the ability to get an erection he should see a doctor - not because of the resulting relationship problems but because it can be an early symptom of various serious conditions.
Other things: don't forget boys are very fetishistic and will respond to things you might not think of: spanking, lingerie, perfume, candle light in the room, and simply sitting and looking at you. Above all, don't rush unless it's urgent!
2007-12-24 15:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was his first time, then yes it might simply be first time jitters. First times can often be overwhelming for some people and effect performance. I'm sure with time and practice things will work out fine. Don't blame or doubt him or yourself. Rushing it or overthinking this will probably make things worst. Take it slow.
2007-12-24 15:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by H.B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First time jitters, but I would start with alittle more foreplay and tease him till he is ready for intercourse. Good foreplay make for a good sex session.
2007-12-24 15:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by D.S.82E5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh. No guy likes this conversation. How old are you two? How long have you been together? Guys are more physically turned on than girls **sometimes**, whereas sometimes women are emotional. I don't know if this is your situation or not however.
Maybe he needs to initiate when he is "ready." Or maybe you need to take CONTROL and rip his clothes off and do whatever necessart to get him in the mood.
Tough deal.
2007-12-24 15:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by ad048868 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah don't worry about it. Things will get better with time and practice. In the meantime keep the BJs coming.
2007-12-24 15:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends do that with other friends it happens but if you two are for real go at again but with the lights out and some tunes and that may help but the first time between friends it just won't work at first but it will happen go again with love in your heart have fun and wear the rain coat
2007-12-24 15:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by fred f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hubby was a virgin till he was 26, and he had the SAME problem!!! He tells me, first time jitters.
2007-12-24 15:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time will tell, but 1st time pressure jitters is common...unless he's over 40
2007-12-24 15:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he has a fear of getting you pregnant even if you use birth control and this could hinder his performance
2007-12-24 15:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not ready. Give it time. Will you feal better telling your next boyfriend he got it up or not?
2007-12-24 15:50:25 · answer #10 · answered by saejin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋