My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me yesterday. We haven' really been having issues or anything so I'm sort of confused. We have a really good relationship. We both love each other and are in love, we trust each other, we have respect for each other. Recently he moved and we only get to see each other on weekends, and this is the only time he gets to see his friends as well. He said he finished it because he wasn't happy with the situation. Which in a way I can understand but surely it's something we could work at especially as the other basic principles of the relatioship are there? I'm not sure if its just a shock in lifestyle change... anyway I was wondering who of you think theres a chance things might work out? I'm talking to him about it in a few days.
2007-12-24 14:56:35 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
your situation totally sucks...
it seems almost unfair since you have been in a relationship with him for 2 years.. it is not like you just met him...
there might be more to the story then you think... if he really did love you then he would make it work.. period.
2007-12-24 15:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds as if he is not quite as committed to the relationship as you may have first thought. If he is not willing to work the situation out then i do believe it is not a relationship worth salvaging. For all the love and etc. you claim there is, he should be more willing to work hard to keep it in tact, the exact opposite of what he did. I would move on, his actions speak louder than words ever could. you don't know if he has found someone else either, some guys can't handle long distance relationships at all, they need a girlfriend there everyday, not just on the weekends conflicting with their friend time.
2007-12-24 23:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say. A question that you have to ask yourself is whether or not you want to work this out. If he is willing to just give up so easily, especially after two years of commitment, do you want to try this again? What happens when something really big happens, like he gets promoted in his job, or if you're still in school you guys go to different colleges? But, if you do want to try and work this out, suggest moving in together, if you're the right age. Or make a schedule between you and his friends for seeing him.
2007-12-24 23:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know. i think you should talk to him about it.... it's good that he's open to it as well. I think it will clear up a lot. I'm SO sorry to hear that, though. I know how you feel. my bf broke up with me as well out of the blue. everything was great and then he broke up with me. I guess its for the best, since I'm moving out of state anyway. But yeah, DEF talk to him!! I can't tell if it will be ok.... because i dont know what's going through his head, BUT if ALL the other principles of relationship are there, I think you may have a good chance of getting back together. maybe he's just scared that the distance will keep yall apart.
2007-12-24 23:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by jane j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might if he's willing to try to work things out.For me, it is not sounds he really love u though..My hubby have been met and dated for a while and got departed to each other sooo many times..3-6months for 2years..we never stopped communicating to each other no matter how expensive it was for calling a long distance calls.Being away to your love ones is the test of ur love to that person.He never give up.neither do i..We survive to that kind of lifestyle eventhough it put us in too much pain(esp. in my pocket)lol..Now im happy to say that we are married 1 and half year.Move on gurl.Now, what my advice is enjoy being free gurl.It wont be good for u if u try to work things out with him coz he is a quitter!.He's going to quit for something no matter what just think about that..he's not really worth it..you deserve better..there's a lot of guys won't quit for love just like that...Believe me..you gotta accept it..don't even show emotion to him when u see him..He's just a quitter!! and be a bravegurl!
2007-12-24 23:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by amore24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow 2 years is a long time to just throw it all away although distant relationships may be hard they are possible if you were meant to be togather im sure this move is just a minor set back however if your break up is final be thankful for the time you had with one another and move on dont dwell on it iim sure your still very young and trust me its not the end of the world
2007-12-24 23:05:09 · answer #6 · answered by monieluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to make you feel worse about the situation, but he has probably found another woman.
Which means he's not worth your time.
Sounds like a sneaky bastard to me. If he's willing to give a supposedly great relationship up on a whim, there are definitely things going on behind the scenes.
You'd probably rather not know.
2007-12-24 23:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by EatMyBattery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if he moved for college, or with his family.
Its quite possible that he doesnt want to deal with any relationship drama the short period of time he has to visit his past life.
This recently happened with my boyfriend. In a nutshell he felt it wasnt working out and just wants to hang out with his friends.
After not seeing eachother for a week or two, this somehow just snapped back into place.
We are still unsure about we're we both want to go in our relationship, but its important to be understanding. Im not mad when he's with his boys, and hes not mad when Im with my girls.
Sometimes it sucks, but its definatley something that makes you stronger as a couple and individually,
just be there for him, but understand if your not his main priority every second of the day. Or weekend.
2007-12-24 23:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by xfelodese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Sammy, your right it is very confusing for things like that to happen. But i tell you this, sometimes even if things looks perfect there will always be a wrong element. If both of you are willing to sacrifice some things for you to get back together then my answer to your question is yes, but if he thinks that there is no chance to get back together, then you have to move on. In my experience with my 7 year relationship, I have experienced heaven and hell but mostly hell, but guest what we have grown strong together. just like what they say...if he is meant for you, then he's for you.
2007-12-24 23:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by cyndy e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it will work out, depending on the fact that you say you both really love eachother. You both, him especially, probably just need some space for now. Anything is possible. Keep your head up and keep yourself busy. If it is mean to be, it is meant to be. But if it doesn't work out, you'll know he isn't the right one for you, meaning, there is someone else better out there waiting for you. :)
2007-12-24 23:01:35 · answer #10 · answered by linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋