2007-12-24 14:40:17 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I was spanked as a child and grew up just fine. Thing is, people need to know the difference between a 'spanking' and a 'beating'. If you beat your childwith the belt or something, then yes they might develop problems that will carry over into their adult life. But I personally think a few swats on the butt with your hand will not scar them for life.
Also, some kids just does not respond to other punishments like taking away privileges, toys or time outs. Then, what are you suppose to do. But I do think you need to try these punishments first before spanking.
Plus, in todays society I find that most kids (not all) doesn't have that 'respect of authority' that I had as a child. When I was told something by my parents, I listened. Period.
2007-12-24 14:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by cajun24 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. BTW this phrase is a corruption
of the biblical sentence:
He who spares his rod hates his child.
I've heard a minister and a rabbi talk about
this and they both said that the "rod" here
is only a symbol. Sometimes a good talking
to can be as effective as using a real rod and
beating the child.
2007-12-24 22:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by steiner1745 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people automatically think that this refers only to spanking a child, however, I tend to believe that it refers to discipline of all forms. So looking at the phrase from my point of view, yes, I do agree. I do not see the need in spanking a child when other methods of discipline can do the job of teaching much better. But spare the job of disciplining a child and you will not succeed in teaching them the proper way to behave.
2007-12-24 22:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but, many misinterpret the meaning of the phrase. "Spare the rod, spoil the children" in itself, means "The notion that children will only flourish if punished, physically OR OTHERWISE, for any wrongdoing."
I did discipline my children, but, NEVER by hitting them .. that teaches them nothing but that it's alright to hit someone, if they're not behaving appropriately.
I've raised three children, one of who is ADHD ... and it was never necessary to hit them ..ever. No child deserves to be abused. :(
2007-12-24 22:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Carol♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there has to be a balance between the two.
The best way is, one of the parent must be strict to the kids & the other must be lenient. In case of single parent then the same person has to play a good cop & bad cop - for that you must know when to be lenient & when not!
2007-12-24 23:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by Habib 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never hit my kids...But I'm not opposed to it either. I will when I feel nothing else is working.Some people use it too much...( my parents used the belt at least once a week with me.) That kind of discipline should be used very sparingly.
2007-12-24 22:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by Rich R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes and no.
You shouldn't hit children, no matter what. it teaches them that hitting is okay, as long as there is a reason for it (to punish someone.). And it gives them psychological problems, where they can't learn to love as well, because they feel that they werent loved.
But you should't spoil children either, they need limits or they are going to grow up to be "spoiled" brats.
2007-12-24 22:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by Karen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people don't know what that really means. The shepherd didn't beat the sheep with the rod. He guided them.
2007-12-24 22:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I don't believe rod means beat your child, it means discipline, and there are many types of discipline
2007-12-24 22:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by Lolitta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh HELL no. I quote robert freeman from the boondocks: " i hate to see a child go unbeaten"...
this after he demonstrates how to discipline a woman's screaming brat with his belt.
the spoiling attitude is why we have the kids we do.
2007-12-24 22:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋