What to tell my parents... Please help?

Question

okay i am 16 yrs old and i have a bunch of amazing friends and family. i luv to spend time with my friends. i work almost full time and my mom is tellin me that i cant be friends with them cuz they do bad things supposefully. I cant stay at ne ones house or hang out with ne of my friends any more just cuz of 1 nite when i didnt come home till 3 in the morning. i can stay at families house but not any of my friends house. i am really upset and just dont wanna be here and have to deal with this anymore. i want to live my life how i wanna live it. my parents just dont understand and its making me drift away from them. and do stuff behind their backs. they are taking my life away from me. i need them to no how i feel about this but i just dont know what to say. i want to live my life not have other ppl live it for me. i can only live my life once and they just dont understand. what should i do. plz help

Answer 1

At this age, everything seems very unfair and parents seem a little too uptight and over reacting. However, please realize your parents are trying to make sure you are safe and making good choices.

You have to realize, you broke a trust. You came home at 3 in the morning which is way too late for someone your age. You worried them. They didn't know if you were safe, drunk and behind the wheel, or drunk and in a car with another drunk person, or abducted. They were stressed and not knowing if you were ever coming home again.

How would you feel if your parents went out, didn't tell you where they went and how long they would be gone? Would you worry and be sick?

Once a trust is broken, it takes many many moon cycles to prove you can be trusted again. One way, is to see if you can get your friends' parents to meet yours. This way if they feel the parents are responsible and care just as much they do, then they may ease up a little. Remember, you only have 2 years to go to be an actual adult. Then the responsibility of life will be upon you and you will wish you could have it as "easy" before you begin working and having to earn money.

Right now it doesn't seem fair, but when you become a parent and worry about your child's safety, you will realize why your parents were over reacting and uptight.

Just think of what it will take to gain trust again. It may be when you ask to go over to a friend, have the friend's parent call them to confirm there is something going on at their home and you have been invited. Follow your curfew rules. If you must be home at a specific time, be home at least 5 minutes before that. As time goes by and the trust goes up, you may find your parents easing up and allowing you later curfews because you showed responsibility for you and your actions.

Good luck and much prayers

Answer 2

You are 16, what you want is not important right now. They are legally liable for anything you do.

When you become 18 you might make your own choices.

What do you think that gives you right now the right to decide on your life. You are not ready, you don’t have the tools or resources to make that kind of decision. Heck, you can’t even take the time to type and spell properly.
You should be worrying about studding, getting ready for the world. Not for if you can hang out with friends. The road gets tougher and tougher as you go and then one day you turn back and say… hey, mom/dad was right!
Guess why? Because they have already been there.
At 16 you have plenty of time to live your life, girl, your life hasn’t even started.
If you decide to take the world by yourself right now, you will miss on the best opportunities that life can bring. A profession or a real career. You will end up being 35 and having to take some loser’s boss crap because you know that if you lose that one job, you won’t have money for your rent, or your car note or lose your medical benefits.
From your little simple world, everything looks easy right now, and you think you know it all… but believe me… you know nothing.

Answer 3

listen sweetheart, staying over at friends house till 3 PM does sound fun but worries our parents..just tell them this once that you made an honest mistake and deserve any punishment, like doing dishes for a month. when you say those things, you parents will be upset but will forgive you later and will hopefully let you have a life after 18. Get a job now and by the time you are 18 or 19, you will have enough to live on your own except you have to work more shifts to pay house, health and other insurances..

Answer 4

You are only 16, your whole life is ahead of you and your parents are just trying to make sure it stays that way. Kids too often forget that as parents we were also 16 once and we know what goes on. So we try to protect our own children from all of that. As for living your own life, get a job, get an apartment, pay your own bills than do what you want. Once you see how expensive it is to make it on your on at 16 you will be running home to mommy & daddy real fast. Also, remember all of this when you are 30, than you will look back and think how you wish you would have listened to your parents, they were right after all. Why do kids think we are so stupid?

Answer 5

You sound like a typical teenager, but you know what I have been there and I remember talking like that now that I am grown I have grown to realize how special family is, they will always be there for you no matter what, and friends come and go. If I were you give it atleast until you are 18 years old legal age to move out but be smart about it get you a nice little place and don't just bring anybody over becareful how you choice your friends and earn your own money and pay bills and eat and sleep and whatever makes you happy Just be responsible. Take care and good luck!!!

Answer 6

You sey parents just don't understand, well you have not thought out things clearly. They have more experience than you have in life and believe it or not they were 16 once to and wanted to do what you do. You will have your whole life ahead of you to do the things you want. If you can't wait....Move out, get a job and start paying your own bills and then see how wonderfull it is to be independant. Its toughf enoughf to make it as an adult in this world never mind at 16. Please give your parents a chance, they love you. In just a few years from now your whole perspective will change. You will graduate and look for a job or go to college. So much to look forward to!! Don't give up. You will be ok.

Answer 7

Tell your parents that you would like to start living independently, and that in order to do that, you will be preparing to function as an adult. Work out how much you will pay them in rent every month to live in their house or find somewhere else to live. You will need to figure out how to afford your own car or just not drive. You probably won't have much time for a social life because you will need to work full time in order to pay for everything but it will be worth it to be able to live the way you want to. Right?

Face life: your parents own you right now. You'll be 18 soon and you can support yourself then.

Answer 8

i'm kind of in your situation. everything i want to do revolves around my grades, which no matter how hard i try, are never good enough, so i dont get to do much. plus theres a handful of my friends that my mom doesnt like.

just tell them this:

mom/dad, i understand that you want the best for me so i dont turn out to be crap when im older. but you have to understand that i dont feel like i have much of a life, and the one i do have, i dont have much control over. i'd like to make a compromise...i will let you know where i am at all times and be where i am supposed to be at all times, so long as you let me actually go out into the world and spend sometime with my friends .


or something like that.
thats pretty much what i did,
everything still revolves around grades,
but i can do a little bit more .

Answer 9

a million. That i develop into an entire time smoker til i found out i develop into pregnant. 2. That I even have executed drugs till now. 3. lost my virginity at sixteen. 4. what number human beings i've got slept with. 5. That i began eating at an early age. 6. The time I lied approximately whilst i develop into staying for clean Years whilst i develop right into a junior in excessive college. 7. Met a guy in man or woman as quickly as that I met off the internet. 8. pushed below the effect of alcohol various situations, a lot of those underage. 9. What sexual stuff i'm into. 10. the situations I had my boyfriend sneak into my room whilst i develop into sixteen.

Answer 10

its not easy,this is your first time being 16. its alsoyour moms first time being YOUR parent.
you want to get it right and so does mom its easier that way isint it?
you see yourself growing up every day as you say you work almost full time,but perhapsyour mom still sees you as her little child.
when you were small yuo had to be shouted at andscolded to avoid danger this was to make you afraid for example crossing the road,staying away from the fire etc,
and it worked.
however as you get older and "streetwise" the "fear" has to be replaced with RESPECT.
you must respect the fact the fact that your mother worries for you (drugs,sex,etc)
and she must respect the fact that at 16 you are mature enough to mind yourself
aiso it is most important that you trust each other so thet she feels free to offer advice without being seen as scolding and that you feel free to ask for advice without being seen as a child.Change fear and worry into trust and respect(and watch love and friendship grow)
put the kettle on and have a chat and a cup of tea