she's nice...but very awkward. i try to warm up to her and she just doesn't seem to care about getting to know me any better. she and my brother have been together two years. she is spending christmas with us this year...she has before and it was very awkward. i am not really looking forward to christmas this year. is this normal? what can i/should i do about it?
2007-12-24 13:34:56 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
*she and i are both 21, my brother is 25
2007-12-24 13:40:19 · update #1
There's nothing wrong with feeling uncomfortable as she probably feels like a complete stranger to you.
In the end, all I can suggest is that you try your best to get along with her, seeing as how she's become an important part of your brother's life for the past 2 years.
You don't have to be close friends or anything and it's admirable that you've tried to make an effort to be nice to her. At least you did everything you could.
2007-12-24 13:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by x y 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very normal to feel awkward around anyone that is being aloof from you. I am glad she is nice but not warming up to someone is a little scary but may be she does not want to feel pretentious or may be get too cosy with you because she wants to make sure the relationship will last . The best thing I can tell you is to remain charitable and hopefully through your good will she may warm up to you and cast a happier scene for the season .
2007-12-24 14:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by Dave aka Spider Monkey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your brother is in love with her, face it she is going to be around for a lot more than just christmas. You need to be civil and not cause any drama. How old are you compared to her because if you are like 12 and she is like 25 it should be obvious why you and her are not "connecting"
Bottom line. . . deal with it - you brother loves her and she could be your sister-in-law someday.
2007-12-24 13:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by iluvmytessadog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very normal but do try to enjoy, I always thought Christmas parties were somewhat dull but now I realize they were great compared to what I have to go through this year and I know they'll never be the same, so I recommend you enjoy them while you have your family with you, you never know what can happen.
2007-12-24 13:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by Gustav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in her place. You only meet one person and she meets all of your family. She's just quiet because she doesn't want to say the wrong thing. Make her feel comfortable with you. It's normal for you to be jealous, you feel that now you won't see your brother as much as before because she will taking most of his time. But remember the saying "Bros before Hoes". Good Luck.
2007-12-24 13:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by e_rod382@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
accept her into the family no matter what - for your bro's sake - she may be difficult or cold - but thats nerves on her part i expect - It's hard trying to become part of a tight family unit that goes back years - love her as you would a sister - if you see no improvement after a while then you will know you were the better woman
Good Luck x
2007-12-24 13:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by Danny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal yes. She's invading your territory. Look at it from your brother's point of view. He wants very much for her to be included in his family. Apparently he wants both sides of people he loves to be together. If things keep going she might be your sister-in-law. Think of the word sister and less of the word in-law.
2007-12-24 13:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by Franklin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know what it feels like to be the 'brothers girlfriend' and maybe she is jst a little shy? I never really talk to my bfs sisters n we have been together two years. although i understand what u are saying, its awful when u dnt feel tht u can relax in ur own home.
2007-12-24 13:41:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshinelollipops 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's your first Christmas with her, then sure! But she is your brothers girlfriend and you should at least give her that respect. She is probably feels as awkward as you do. Try to make her feel as welcome as possible, she will come around and feel more comfortable!!! Merry Christmas!!!
2007-12-24 13:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can sympathize with you. But I have to think about my boyfriend's family would think or feel if I spent the holidays with his family and him. I'm always nice to them, but it's still awkward for me too. Just think how awkward it must be for her. You and your brother aren't kids anymore... so you're going to have to learn to share him with her, or someone else eventually.
Good luck, and I hope you have a good holiday, hon.
2007-12-24 14:18:17 · answer #10 · answered by EmilyJune 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋