Why do you think love is real???

Question

Love is so fake....
all love is an illusion....
all love doesnt exist....
i hate it when i think about the girl i like....
because i know that one day she WILL break my heart badly someday.... all love is like that...
love is an illusion...
damn, i hate thinking about it! I hate it soo much!

Answer 1

You were probably born into a loveless home. Your reality was a world without love. You needed love but you didn't have it. Love was just something you dreamed about. So it WAS an illusion. And you grow into adulthood, somehow drawn to the same kind of people you were born with, people who's hearts are locked up tight, and you don't seem to have the key.
Consider the possibility that it doesn't have to be this way, that things can be different. You have to dig into your heart and find out why you can't seem to want the people who want you. There is an answer there. Start on a journey of self discovery. Use help and resources whenever you can. There IS another way.

Answer 2

Love is real. There are all different types of love! Many! Love for a significant other comes with hurt, and pain, but most importantly happiness. When people think about being in love it is an illusion, because it is really never what people expect. But being in love, actually in love, that is not an illusion. It is real. The true love that you WILL have one day, will break your heart, but will be right there to pick the pieces back up. That is your love. Accept what comes with love, and you'll understand.

Answer 3

If you hate love and hate thinking about it then why did you ask this question for every answer is going to make you think about love? I don't think you hate it, but are still looking for it. Love is so huge that it is almost incmprehensible so if you don't yet understand it and have an "intense hostility toward it and aversion to it" it may be because it is so immense and important a concept that it qverwhelms you.

You mentioned thinking "about the girl I like..." and that makes me wonder if you are not doing, as so many have done, in mistaking love for lust or sex LOVE IS AN ACT, basically, and not necessarily the sex act. Sex acts can be done out of hate such as in rape. Love as an act is an act of the will and always done with good will toward the other. You can even do an act of love for someone you hate so Love does not even have to be done from a good feeling in one. It is expressed through the emotionless act of good will toward the hated.

This aspect of LOVE OF THE HATED is probably the most real definition of what love as an act means because it results in profound emotional changes in the doer and the recipient of the act. If you have any will at all you can love those you otherwise hate by an act of good will.. You will be surprised at what this does to change the attitude of the giver and the recipient.

Try accomodating your belief system to the idea that love does not have to be a mushy or sexy feeling but is primarily an abstract act of the will.

Good luck in loving, good health, peace and LOVE!

Answer 4

Love for the self, not easy is it, but normal. It is a start. Love does not live in absence of a living heart, something a living self must have.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abraham_Maslow
Maslow postulated that needs are arranged in a hierarchy in terms of their potency. Although all needs are instinctive, some are more powerful than others. The lower the need is in the pyramid, the more powerful it is. The higher the need is in the pyramid, the weaker and more distinctly human it is. The lower, or basic, needs on the pyramid are similar to those possessed by non-human animals, but only humans possess the higher needs.

The first four layers of the pyramid are what Maslow called "deficiency needs" or "D-needs:" the individual does not feel anything if they are met, but feels anxious if they are not met..... Needs beyond the D-needs are "growth needs," "being values," or "B-needs." When fulfilled, they do not go away; rather, they motivate further.

Answer 5

A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.

After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.

Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.

I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.

I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.

If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.

I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.

Love and blessings

Your brother
don

Answer 6

You are not talking about love. You talk about hurt or owning somebody and then this somebody decides to go.

Love is real if it is true. True love is love of the soul. If you truly love a persons soul, love does not hurt as all you want is true happiness for this other human being. So even if this person leaves you in an earthly sense, if you love her soul truly you will still love her.
Jalousy or earthly "love" yes this is a complete illusion and one day it vanishes or changes.

This is also not the Love Jesus told us about and as it is Christmas today the day the world remembers Jesus, who is Love, you might also get a sense what type of Love lives on, is eternal and can never vanish.

Bless you and have a merry Christmas!

Answer 7

LOVE IS AN ILLUSION, then you must really hate yourself and by the look of your art work.
IF YOU DON'T, I DO ...lol

Seriously though, you must have had a bad trot, but. You aint the only one that's been down the bumpy Road, and. It seem's you must go it alone for a while, how long a 'While', no-one knows, but. What seem's long may in actual fact be short, there again what seem's short can be incredibly long.
You never know, if you shie.

Answer 8

Do you love and respect yourself? If love is fake, an illusion, doesn't exist, why are you still around?

Answer 9

love is real when the world looks real-when the world looks like a "illusion" then it,s not love!

Answer 10

Because the chemical reactions in the brain that cause the emotional attachment have been scientifically proven to exist.