My brothers didn't listen to me and did something that hurt me a lot. My little sister surprisingly supported them. I asked them if what they did was worth losing a brother. They didn't answer. I said that I didn't know who they were anymore and said just the sight of their faces disgusts me.
I can't find it in my heart to forgive them. They have the lowest regard for my father it seems, and that I can't seem to forgive.
Thoughts?
2007-12-24 12:33:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There are many lessons I've learned in life growing up and Its to learn to forgive and forget. I find that holding grudges isn't a good thing for the heart- physically and mentally, it can be tiring. Even if you don't have in the right mind to forgive your siblings, forgive for yourself, forgive only for you and forgive to let go of the grudge that might be hurting you and your heart.
2007-12-24 16:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, of course not. Everyone holds grudges... some just let go faster than others. But, I'm not saying you should continue not talking to them... they are still your family. Try to make peace, because you don't know what will happen tomorrow.
2007-12-24 20:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they did something to you specifically or something that effected your life negatively then yeah I guess its ok to hold a grudge.
I don't know. Do what you want, and if you want to hold a grudge hold on. Just be sure that you won't regret it.
You don't know if any of you have another minute to live on this Earth =]
Happy Holidays =]
2007-12-24 20:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by Devan! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anger is never the way to go, look at the situation from a neutral point of view, there you see life in a level you couldn't imagine, your siblings are wrong to mistreat you, but you are wrong to insult them, they are ungrateful people you have a right to not trust them, but never ever lose your respect for them, always value them and your blood ties, and always treat them in a way they deserve, forgive, and let the higher power do what will and always be a fair punishment.
2007-12-24 20:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by John S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In time maybe everyone will feel different..right now if you feel you or someone you love has been wronged then by all means Grudge Away!... Time will tell.....
2007-12-25 02:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are stupid. they are so stupid i dont hold grudges. Sure, I hate them but i dont hold grudges unless you go out of your way to keep messin around with me. Then i just try to hurt ya to keep you out of my way. Dont really hold grudges. Takes a lot. I just hate everyone.
2007-12-24 20:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by nik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never take the disharmony and disease of other people's disharmonious and diseased behaviors into yourself, such as a grudge. Keep balanced and healthy and free and clear. Every morsel of disharmony and disease that we take into ourself causes us damage. Honor and take care of YOURSELF and your personal integrity. It is dishonorable and self-weakening to succumb to the savage passion of negative responses. That is even more vile than the behavior you abhor in others and that which offends you. If you abhor disease, why respond to disease with MORE disease? If you remain balanced and healthy, that balance and health will spread to others and they will become less diseased.
2007-12-24 20:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are. This is because you cannot move forward in a relationship if you hold grudges.
2007-12-24 21:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from experience i found that it takes a lot more energy to hold a grudge....jus "forgive"..i mean u will always remember what they did but...
2007-12-24 20:58:09 · answer #9 · answered by Its Meeee!!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they haven't said they are sorry or tried to rectify their actions then I wouldn't forgive or overlook their actions. When someone does wrong they should try to make it right.
2007-12-24 21:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by Aunt Doobie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋