Well i'm only a 15 year old girl to start out with... but don't judge me by my age please. I've been with the same boy for 3 years now... he's 18. Well he's never really treated me that great... he used to beat me but he stopped doing that after i got my parents involved, and now he's just really controlling. I've wanted to break up with him but don't have the heart to do it because i AM in love with him, it's just not that great of love, but it feels like i'm stuck. Anyways.. one of my friends had told me she's bisexual, and i came out and told her i was too. She stayed the night last night & we went "all the way". I've never cheated, EVER, but i was kinda caught in the moment last night. Anyways, i really don't feel guilty at all for my boyfriend, because he treats me so badly. What should i do? Should i tell him? He knows i'm bi & he knows she is too. Ugh... what would you do? I'm scared of what he'll do, and i'm too deep in to break it off with him.... help please? I'm dying here.
2007-12-24 11:53:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ITS OKAY BEBE
2007-12-24 11:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by BABY_GURL 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
1. You can't be kind of in love, or in love "but not that great of love." being in love is being 100% in love, the most enthralling feeling youll ever experience, because its either you are IN love with them or you aren't. and if you are even considering breaking up with him you arent in love. Love would also stop you from cheating, as well. Therefor, you aren't in love.
2. I suggest you break up with him. Do what YOU want. Don't do anything or let anything stop you just cos you are trying too please someone else. So i think you should break up with him.
3. it doesnt sound like you are really ready for a relationship at the moment, you feel tied down apparently. And if you just tell him the truth, that you think he is too controlling and that you just aren't ready for a relationship at the moment and that it's too stressful too jave a boyfriend at the time, and you could possibgly mention the fact you cheated on ihm with a girl. If you don't have the heart too do this, suggest "taking a break" even if you just wonna break up for good.
4. I think part of why it is so hard too break up is because youve been with him so long, you are comfortable with him, he used too beat you and you may be fearful of him. So, even if you are used too him and you do like him a lot obviously, but it just isn't working out.
if your boyfriend of three years cheated on you with a guy& felt like he was tied down because of you and was totally considering breaking up with you. Would YOU still wonna be with him ?
2007-12-24 12:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not too deep to break it off. You need away from this boy. Do not tell him about your girlfriend. Break up with him and if he does not take it well get your parents involved again. Do not be alone with him when you tell him, try to do it where there are people or do it on the phone. Never take this treatment from anyone.
2007-12-24 18:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to break it off with him. He isn't treating you right. As he has a violent disposition you shouldn't risk telling him about last night.
Good luck!
2007-12-24 12:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
beating u is bad dump his *** and i think a girl cheating with a girl is fine and u should get rid ofhim if hes an asshole
and just in case anyone shows up theres nothing wrong with being gay
2007-12-24 11:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by asaf 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You do need to break up with him. Don't tell him that you had sex with that girl. And yes, that was cheating.
2007-12-24 12:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by Erica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT tell him, if he has abused you again, he might do it again. It will be fine. He has no way of knowing, but if u truly love him, or arent gay, u should try not to do it again. I do understand how it happenned tho.
2007-12-24 11:58:12 · answer #7 · answered by jeromykscott 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you should dump him
2007-12-24 12:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by Chef Smalls 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋