my 17year old is acting like a spoiled brat and has uncontroled temper tantrims.
The other night we punished him by turning off his cell phone. he wouldn take the punishment and started nagging for us to open it we told him that we cant do it and that he has to suffer the punishment beacuse of his bad behaviour. We even tried to make a deal with him what he has to do to get his phone back. he wasnt willing negotiet at all and went to his room angry
thats when we heart a loud crash and when we investigated we found out that he punched the mirror in the hall way and it broke . we were very angy at him and he justified his action beacuse he is angry. our older son was also very angry at him and they started fughting and then our 17 yr old son kicked the glass on the coffie table and broke it.
We asked him to leave the house beacuse we were very angry at him and he wouldnt leave. eventually he calmed down , but we let him know that as for now he will not get his telephone back at all.
2007-12-24 11:30:29 · 8 answers · asked by sk11230 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The temper tantrums, etc. are a normal part of a teen boy testing boundaries... but... as soon as he became violent he overstepped the bounds big time. No cell phone would be the start for me. He'd also be grounded and would be on grounding until he paid for the damage he caused by doing chores (including some hard ones) around the house for $3 to $8 an hour.
If he has another violent outburst, I recommend counseling. Another incident could mean he's a danger to himself or others.
Good luck. My thoughts are with you.
2007-12-24 11:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by Twice as Nice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only tell you from experience and he either wants attention he never received or the way you come at him must upset him. Usually around this age they want to feel like adults and if you keep treating them like kids even by your tone in voice they get very angry! He may be trying to act like one of his friends or something and gots alot of pressure going on in school. I would suggest having talks with him in an adult manner and letting him know you love him and are just trying to help him ! DOesnt always work but you could give it a try. Also keep up with whats going on around him at school, home etc.
2007-12-24 20:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that you are trying to negotiate with a teenager. He would not take the punishment and was nagging at you? Are you for real? There should be no negotiations. There are consequences for actions and they need to be stuck to. Who are the parents here? Obviously it has been him and for way too long.
2007-12-25 02:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest anger management classes. He sounds really stressed out and that he can't express himself. Talk too him or ge thim a therapist. Dont bribe him to go. Don't even tell him if you sign him up for anything just take him there, and sit him in the place. and leave er something.
2007-12-24 20:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by leelee. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't negotiate. Stand firm in your decisions about discipline and punishments. I would also recommend making him pay for the things he broke. If he has no money of his own make him work it off.
2007-12-24 19:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jaclyn&Dave 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to see a psychologist to work through his anger issues. Temper tantrums and mood swings are normal, but violence is not.
2007-12-24 20:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
that is so bad!!!
my place....even if i broke a small glass....i would have to pay for it..... Now i understand why my parents are quite strict with me...I'm proud of my parents!!!!!!
Your son needs counsel ling and a vacation!!
2007-12-25 12:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by SIMONE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ship his *** to military camp & get him some help.
2007-12-24 19:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by JAE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋