Why are humans so desperate, fearfull, insecure, anxious and always on guard?

Answer 1

The Ego. No other animal on the face of the earth is saddled with it. The ego is the sole source of desperation, fear, insecurity, and angst. The bright side is that it's totally separate from us and can be noticed and addressed.

The worst of all is fear, but all of them are a trick of our ego. Fear keeps us from having remarkable accomplishments. Love brings power. It is like an antidote to fear. Fear is for playing a small game in life and keeps us from risking.

I am 41 and I was in a wheelchair until I was 20. I overcame that, and it sure as hell wasn't by coming from fear. The ego tricks us into playing it safe and from doing unremarkable things. When you are in fear, immediately distance yourself from it. It only serves to either freeze you in your tracks or propel you in a certain direction for all the wrong reasons. It gets us to do things that are not true to ourselves. Ask yourself "What would I do if I wasn't afraid?" The answer to that question is always the way.

It's a good thing that little babies aren't stuck with this limiting garbage. If they did, they'd just crawl forever and never risk trying to walk. When we were little we could do ANYTHING. So what changes that? Our box forms, our ego develops and tells us to play it safe and to hold back and to not risk because the worst thing in the world would be to look silly or to be wrong. A kid will walk up to another kid and say, "Hi, want to be friends?" We slowly learn to stop taking big dangerous fearful things like that. If you're ever stuck or keep getting the same undesired results over and over, it's the ego alive and well and intact.

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Answer 2

I don't believe that people are much different today than they were in past generations. What I believe you are responding to in your question is a perception of fear in our culture and society. One thing that is different today than in the past is the tremendous influence of the media and in particular TV. It is normal for humans to have certain fears such as a fear of spiders, snakes, falling, etc. these are built into our evolutionary development and at one time served us well. We have a fear of something that we perceive and can't know as in a movement in our periferal vision and we move away from it. These are natural. However, it appears that things have changed we should be much more afraid to get in our car everyday than we should be of snakes but we aren't. Instead we are afraid of flying which is much safer but a more primal fear. The media and entertainment industries play on this to market and sell their products (snakes on a plane lol). Also, there are over 360 million people in the 50 states and when the media talks about a serial killer or a child molester even one that is far removed from our neighborhood it seems bigger than it is. With our affluence we can afford protections and not face our fears. All of this combines to make us more fearful than we need to be and it also makes us fear the wrong things. We should fear crooked politicians for example much more than we should fear the typical excon who has reached the age of 50 and served his time and has a low chance of repeating his crime. It is not just the media it is in our nature but the culture and the media and the political system all combine to make us think about things that we wouldn't have spent much time thinking about a couple generations ago. I think a better education system that teaches students to think and to challenge what they see and hear would help. Also, a more active citizenry that holds the news organizations and politicians accountable for the things they say would also help. This is a complex issue but a good one to think about. If we want to be a healthy society we can't live in fear. Neither the individual or the nation can afford to make fear based decisions. So we should avoid that tendency and look more deeply into our motivations and fears. Perhaps we would have thought differently about 911 and Iraq if we had. Perhaps our criminal justice system would work better if we did. I hope your question leads people to be less fearful and more mindful. Thanks for asking.

Answer 3

I've read it's behavior in reaction to past actions. If a person was rejected or told they were worthless, they come to believe that. Wanting acceptance, they can become desperate for acceptance and will seek it almost anywhere. When acceptance seems to be given, there is a fear that it might be lost (also ties to insecurity). A person who felt they were powerless may seek to compensate by controlling others, often with anger or bullying.

Answer 4

If one wants to find out about it, then an intellectual answer is not enough, one has to dig deeper finding out oneself by getting to know oneself. One needs to understand human nature by observing oneself and ones surrounding.
Self-knowledge is the key to these questions. One needs to ask many questions about the subject and the first might be: Who am I? Yes, I know that I am human, but what does it mean? In how far I am different from animals? There are obviously many similarities, so what makes a human different?
Well, I think it is the more developed 'personality'. We can observe that animals also have personality, but humans have advanced thinking capacity, but the significant difference is that humans identify themselves with their thinking and also with their emotions and then and this makes it that they blow up themselves so much: They identify themselves totally with the gathered content they store in form of concepts, beliefs, memories of all kind and also of traumatic ones. In the state of evolution humans are now, they are mostly not capable to do a step beside to realize that there is something more. Then they would be able to have an overview and decide what of the owned knowledge really serve them. That's not possible, once it is established and part of ones personality, then is must be kept and defended. Now the tragically consequence is that there is a constant confrontation with daily reality and the personality in ones rigid defensive attitude and behavior is reacting all the time, needing confirmation for once established condition, but when not being able to receive these then reacting with disappointment, frustration or with anger. Indeed being in a desperate, fearful, insecure, etc. position. But also these serves the purpose because the individual feels confirmed in ones existence, in a negative way when suffering, but better than nothing... That explains the phenomena that sometimes sick people are clinging on their disease, because then at least they get attention and feel their existence!
So that's how the majority of people live. They develop their personality by gathering more and more sophisticated knowledge, beliefs, etc. and a more complete self-image. But life and their own inbuilt growing force will not allow that they blow themselves up more and more. People, without knowing it, provoke themselves situations where they are confronted with happenings they can't avoid and need to confront. They don't know that they are confronting themselves and of course they are using their old tricks to deal with it and - they will encounter the same situation again and again... Then maybe one day the coin drops (we say in Berlin) and the individual wakes up, realizing that the happenings are a confrontation with oneself. Then the first critical questions might arise. Self-critical! Because critique and complains were the way of dealing until then, giving the fault for every thing to the outside and others. Then the clearing up can start and then one is able to get out of the vicious circle...
There are ways to help ones condition of desperation, fear, insecurity and to create a condition that gives a base to deal with the disturbance, especially in times of transition, I have written about it a lot. You can read about it at the link given at the bottom.
I hope that it became clear now that we don't need to be desperate because we can't live our self-image and our beautiful beliefs and concepts, we can go beyond and find new spaces and new horizons. So let's go for it, the personality still serves us, but we must not cling too much!
BeiYin
PS: The fact that people ask questions not only serves to get information for ones established beliefs and concepts, it also shows that people might be ready to find out about their existence in a more essential depth...

Answer 5

Humans? As opposed to Martians or moon people? Don't be a generalist. Not everyone is fearfull, insecure, desparate or anxious. In fact, I don't know one person with all those traits combined. Maybe you should see a physciatrist.

Answer 6

That is how we obtain our warm fuzzies. Sympathy comes to those who appear to need it and so we conduce in ways that obtains the attention related to the behavior in question or in this case, behaviors.

Answer 7

,,,,,, and if you noticed we live behind locked doors, as if the robber was outside just waiting for us to open it.!!!!!!! I think it comes from watching the news and all the reports of murders and break ins, killing and raping, the trials etc. It is scary all right, but my opinion is that paranoia is rampant.

Answer 8

because the universe is out to get us.

It gets to live for billions of years, while it strives to kill us in only 70.

Answer 9

In today's world? Learned behavior!

Answer 10

Most people dont trust others. we need to trust otheres. We also need to learn to embrace differences. And not to shoot everyone who's different.